Recently, I attended a family wedding out of state, and it was sure great to see family that I haven’t seen in years.
Of course there was a little family drama (there almost always is, right? haha), but I decided it wasn’t going to ruin the day.
I went up to every family member, hugged them, and chatted with them for a few minutes.
And I felt really good afterward.
Regardless of when you’re reading this, odds are there’s a holiday or special occasion coming up for you.
Odds are you’ll also be navigating some family drama at this special occasion or holiday…
Especially if you’ll be eating differently than everyone else, and you’re worried about what they’ll say.
If you are worried, here’s a tip:
If you’re weird about it, they’ll be weird (or weirder) about it, too.
But if you’re cool, they’ll be cool (or at least, cooler).
Think of that upcoming gathering like a cup of black coffee.
If you add dirt to it, it’ll taste like dirt.
If you add vinegar to it, it’ll taste like vinegar.
If you add sweetener to it, it’ll taste sweet.
Same deal with the energy YOU bring to the gatherings you attend.
If you show up with “dirt and vinegar” like…
– Awkwardness
– Self-consciousness
– Feeling judged
– Feeling like “the weirdo” who’s “dieting”
…then your family will sense it and feel weird, awkward, judged, and self-conscious, too.
They won’t like it, and they’re more likely to question your choices, put pressure on you to have “just one bite,” and try to steamroll you, all because they feel the uncomfortable things you’re feeling and don’t like it.
On the other hand, if you show up feeling…
– Relaxed
– Confident
– Comfortable
– Focused on your choices (instead of theirs)
…they’ll feel all that “sweetness” instead.
Does it mean no one will comment on your healthy choices?
Not necessarily.
But the attitude YOU show up with absolutely influences theirs.
Bottom line: You have more power than you think to affect whether there’s family drama, along with how “bad” the drama gets.
Instead of waiting for other people to “get with the program,” focus on how YOU’RE showing up.
Check your mindset, energy, and attitude. Imagine how you want to show up and the empowering things you’ll say and do if questioned about your food choices.
You CAN minimize family drama…by putting “healthy sweetener” into the “coffee” (instead of dirt or vinegar).
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