What Is This Episode About…

It’s so much easier to blame your family, your job, COVID, your kids, etc… for you getting off track and NOT taking care of yourself. It’s time to stop blaming and start taking responsibility for your own actions.

Do you know why it’s easier to give excuses than take responsibility for your circumstances? Yeah, taking responsibility is hard, and many people are unable to do it. However, if you need to succeed in anything, you have to do it. You simply have to take responsibility without the need to give bullcrap excuses.

If you want to be great at something and reach the top, you have to learn to take responsibility for everything that happens. Own up the problem, look for solutions, and fix it, then make sure that it never happens again. That is the formula for greatness.

If you are placing blame on everything other than you, then you got to step back, take a hard look in the mirror and realize that ultimately, the buck stops with you.

The bottom line is that it’s nobody else’s fault but you. You have to take responsibility for the circumstance you are in, no matter what happened. You cannot blame other factors for regaining weight that you had lost. It’s your fault period.

Key Takeaways

• Giving reasons for your circumstances is no better than giving excuses (02:05)
• Its nobody’s else’s fault but you (04:20)
• Great people always take responsibility (09:04)
• Nobody puts anything in your mouth but you (11:56)
• Always ask yourself what you can do when faced with a challenge (15:29)
• Ultimately, the buck stops with you (18:42)
• You prioritize your health, or you don’t (21:41)
• It hurts so bad to take responsibly, but you have to do it (22:03)
• Own it, then do something about it (23:00)

Learn More About The Content Discussed…

Get the Code Red On-The-Go Guide here.

Join the next 10-Pound Takedown Challenge here.

When Was It Released…

This episode was released November 04, 2020

Episode Transcript…

The Transcript Is Auto Generated And May Contain Spelling And Grammar Errors

Cristy  0:00  

It ultimately is your responsibility. You cannot continue to place blame on other people and other circumstances you can’t. You can’t do that. I have seen people gain back the weight I’ve seen coaches Code Red certified coaches that leave the lifestyle disconnect from the community and gain back their weight. And they say this to why No, these are all just excuses but it may be a bit bit bit bit.

Intro  0:33  

I’m Cristy Code Red and you’re listening to rebel weight loss and lifestyle where we believe food holds the power to heal or poison. And we believe our society has been misled regarding proper nutrition and weight loss. You’re in the right place if you’re looking for some straight-up truth because I’m here to shed light on the lies and brainwashing that has taken place over the past five decades. Thanks so much for listening.

Cristy  1:01  

Cristy Code Red author, entrepreneur, retired professional boxer, I tell you guys, I was at an event and this woman brought a little kid in to meet me a little time he must have been two years old. And every time she would hear my videos playing in the background when I say author, entrepreneur, retired professional boxer and I would shadowbox in the air. She was shadowboxing, the air was so cute. I love that. So hello to all of you. Welcome to rebel weight loss in lifestyle. I’m sitting here just see my camera while I’m every go. I don’t know why I can’t do this before I hit the button. Welcome back. Welcome back rebel weight loss and lifestyle. Hello. How’s everybody doing? I’ve got a good one for you today. Well, I think they’re all good. I think some of them are better than others, some of them but some of them just hit home. And some of them are just what you need to hear. And some of them don’t really apply to you. And I think this is one that’s going to be hard for a lot of you guys to hear. Because we’re talking about blaming versus taking responsibility. Blaming versus accountability. Pretty much everything is easier than taking responsibility. But blaming is much easier. Now, the funny thing about blaming is that it people, they call it reasons I call it bullcrap excuses. You guys know that. But people call them reasons. Well, these are the reasons that I gained back all 86 pounds that I lost. And they think that that makes it Okay, you know, that they say these are my reasons. And they say and this is another thing that people do that I can’t stand Oh, I can’t stand this. This is what they do. I know these are just excuses. But Budda Budda Budda Budda Budda Budda I know these are just excuses, but, but I like them saying like them, prefacing their bullcrap excuses, actually makes it okay. Like by them saying, I know it’s not okay. But here are my excuses. No, see, even though you said that it doesn’t make it okay. It still doesn’t make it okay. Like, you should just stop talking, like period. Like, you don’t even need to say your excuses by someone even saying what their excuses are, by someone even saying what their reasons are. That makes them act like they’re using it for a crutch. That to me is someone who does what they’re used to. They’re using that for an excuse. Even if they say, I know, this is not an excuse, but I know that this doesn’t make it okay. But bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, no, see, you don’t even say that part. It doesn’t make it okay. So why would you even say it? Now, I know a lot of you guys are gonna be like, Christie. This is baloney. You know, like, my dad was in the hospital, and my son got a DUI, and I ended up having to take care of my neighbor’s kid because my neighbor’s husband, and I get that crap happens. I mean, I absolutely get the crap that happens in our life. And we might have a harder time focusing on our diet, and focusing on our sleep and our water when those things happen.

I understand that. And I know that this upsets A lot of you to hear these words. But bottom line, it’s nobody’s fault. But yours. Say that with me. It is my fault. Say that with me. It is my fault, period. It’s the bottom line. It’s your fault. You have to take responsibility. Some of you guys. I mean, if you’re listening to me, right now, chances are you have even been through a challenge or you have heard my other podcast. So you are now responsible for that information that the diet industry The education the government, they’re all wrong when it comes to nutrition. The traditional medical paradigm doesn’t train doctors and nurses correctly. They don’t even talk about nutrition. They don’t do proper nutrition training, any training they get is the food pyramid. It’s wrong. All the training they get they’ve gotten is driven by industry and driven by pharmaceutical companies. They are taught to treat a pill for every ill. So there’s just you probably know all that leading into this podcast, you probably know all that. So if you have never heard that before, then yeah, okay. So it’s truly not your fault. You don’t know what you don’t know. But chances are, you have heard me before. And you understand that the high fat lifestyle is the proper human diet, that we eat a proper human diet. Okay, so let’s just assume you know all that already. It ultimately is your responsibility. You cannot continue to place blame on other people and other circumstances, you can’t, you can’t do that. I have seen people gain back the weight. I’ve seen coaches, code, red certified coaches, that leave the lifestyle, disconnect from the community and gain back their weight. And they say this to why No, these are all just excuses, but a baby BIT bit bit bit. And I just go. And yet they spent like years, months and years coaching other people into taking responsibility, I’m amazed, you have to take the responsibility yourself, you have to own it with Code Red, it doesn’t matter which one of my employees screwed up. It is my fault. I own Code Red , I am the top of the food chain, I am LFA, I am head honcho, it is my fault. Ultimately, it is my fault. It doesn’t matter if an employee dropped the ball on something, I have to do my due diligence by doing the checks and balance by doing compliance by making sure that everything behind the scenes keeping my finger on the pulse of everything that doing spot checks. It is my responsibility to keep these guys trained up to make sure everybody is up to date on policies, procedures, and our rules and guidelines and our and what we’re doing. It’s my responsibility. Mine. Ultimately, it’s mine. I’ve got to deal with the angry customer. I know that there are people in Code Red  that deal with angry customers. But ultimately, sometimes I have to call them up. And I have to say, I’m sorry, that was so wrong. You should have been shipped that Sally, you would not believe Can I just sidebar here for a second, you would not believe how horrifically angry people get if for some reason, their cookbook, or their product does not get shipped. And our shipping department is absolutely phenomenal. I mean that we ship 200 items a day. And we don’t he doesn’t miss a beat. Our shipping manager doesn’t miss a beat. But once in a while, something like somebody I don’t know. It just falls through the cracks. There’s a systems hiccup, and there’s a problem. And that cookbook doesn’t get shipped. I mean, instead of just emailing customer service or contacting us to our help desk, and saying, hey, kind of weird, you know, I know you guys have same day free shipping. Kind of weird. I’ve ordered my cookbook like 13 days ago and is still not here. Oh shoot. Like that is a hiccup in our system and hardly ever happens. But people get really, really really mad. They never say they never say that they’re never nice like that. They’re really angry. They threatened to sue us. They threatened to

report us to fraud, you know all that stuff. It’s really amazing how how upset people get but guess what happened. That is my fault, ultimately. And usually I give that person that cookbook for free. I refund them, I ship them another one. Sometimes they get two, because it’s my fault. Ultimately, it is my fault. And if you truly want to be great, and if you truly want to reach the top and you truly want to do excel in what you’re doing, you have to learn to take responsibility. You have to learn to say that it’s my fault. It really is. It’s not just something I’m saying here in front of the camera to you. I truly believe that. I truly believe that everything that happens with Code Red is my fault. Everything is my responsibility. We have divvied up I have outsourced certain jobs to certain employees. But the buck stops with me and the buck stops with you. You’ve got to learn to shift the blame to from everybody else to you. You have to quit even blaming your dog. You got to quit blaming everybody. You don’t get along with your mother in law. you’re pissed at your kids teacher. You know the guy Didn’t yield at the stoplight. My gosh, you should see how many things you will blame things on. You blame everything for being late. You know you’re late to something oh my gosh, you’ll say, Oh, you know, I you’ll say to your hairdresser, I’m so sorry. I’m late. I mean, if everybody would just drive the speed limit, then you know, I just I just can’t believe I must have waited that light for six minutes. I can’t believe that I’m late. I am. Couldn’t get my garage door open. I can’t believe I’m late. There. Were these people like they were driving so slow in the passing lane. No. Bottom line is you are late because you did not leave early enough. Yes, it is nobody else’s fault. You’ve got to plan for these things. You’ve got to think ahead. alternate routes in case the road is blocked because of an accident. You’ve got to plan ahead. I leave 30 minutes. I live six minutes from downtown. I planned 30 minutes everywhere I go 30 minutes. I’d rather sit aside my beauty salon then be late. I really would I’d rather sit outside and be live on Instagram for 25 minutes then be late for anything. But the bottom line is you are late. Because you did not leave early enough. And it is hard to is in your mind as some of you guys you got like you just can’t wrap your head around this. No, no, listen, no. Hey, that light was unusually red. Like for a long time, Cristy? Nope. It’s not the lights fault. It’s not the other driver’s fault. It’s not the homeless person’s fault. Who took a long time walking across the road with the the shopping cart full of crap. It’s not anybody else’s fault. It’s not the other people’s fault because you couldn’t find a parking spot. It’s not these crosswalks fault because it didn’t have a little white walking man quick enough. It’s not anybody else’s fault. But you The bottom line is you did not leave soon enough. Are you getting this do you quite you really can you wrap around your head, wrap your head around this. nobody else’s fault buy yours, you got to shift the blame back to you. And when it comes to your weight loss, you’ve got Nobody puts anything in your mouth but you. This is not prison, even prison. They don’t shove crap in your mouth. All right, like come on. You are the one making the ultimate decision. Now, of course when your dad’s in the hospital, and all you have is a vending machine choice. And you don’t have any backup food. And the cafeteria is closed and all they have is coffee. Like you’re just skipping a meal and you’re starving and you got a headache like what you know, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I that is that is a tough situation. And it’s extra tempting when you’re when you are dehydrated, and you’re tired because you’ve been up all night long. And the now the little Debbie’s are staring at you. In the vending machine, all they have is sugar in that vending machine. They don’t have healthy crap in there. They don’t have hummus and carrots. They don’t have anything in there like that. Yeah, of course, a more difficult situation. You’re absolutely right. But not impossible. Of course, if you got a death in the family, and everybody’s bringing over casserole, what’s up with casserole and funerals? What’s up with that? Because it’s an easily transportable dish, I guess, I don’t know. But people are bringing over crap to your house, because that’s the only thing they know to do to try to help you to feed you. So you don’t have to worry about cooking. And it’s so kind. I mean, I totally understand and I totally get it. I so appreciate people doing that. Like trying to help you know,

Unknown Speaker  13:27  

but

Cristy  13:28  

ultimately, you don’t have to eat that. You make that decision, whether you shove that in your mouth or you put it in the garbage. You got to take the responsibility and it hurts to take the responsibility. It hurts. I talked about being in a domestic violence situation when I was 18. I was with a man who was physically and verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. He was horrible. And he still is to this day. He is terribly manipulative, and oh my gosh, that guy could spit fire with his words. But you know, and did I ask for that? Of course not. Of course. Not it? Did I see it coming? No, of course not. But it’s my responsibility. I shouldn’t have run off with them. I shouldn’t have run all move clear across the country. I shouldn’t have gotten in that situation. I shouldn’t have stayed for as long as I did. Yeah, it’s absolutely my fault. The first sign of that happening, I should have left. The first red flag I should have left. So I yeah, I absolutely take full responsibility for that. The guy is a total jerk. He’s a horrible, horrible evil man. But I take full responsibility for what happened to me. I do years and years later, I was in another relationship where this guy was so manipulative and he ended up stealing $36,000 from me. He earned my trust. Let them into my bank account. The money is gone. Is that my fault? Yeah, it is. It’s 100% my fault. Is that weird for you to hear me say that? Yeah, it’s 100% my fault. Well, Cristy, how do you I don’t know. I’m just saying hundred percent my fault. Then when I got into a relationship with Myles, I got a real ironclad prenup. The one man on earth that I can trust fully 100% hands down without a doubt.

And I’m like, Nope, not making that mistake. I everybody knows I only make one with those same mistakes. Why don’t you make the mistake once? I don’t make the mistake again, right? entrepreneurs, they really get into this whole blaming the economy blaming who’s ever in office blaming, you know, how the stock market’s doing? No, listen, let me tell you guys something. There’s a company out of meridian Idaho called valiant productions. And they are a company that puts on productions events, okay, with the stage and the lights in the smoke and the music and they have the LED screens, they have all the high tech computer equipment, and they will put on this huge they handle all the electronics for your event. Well, when COVID hit, and nobody doing any events, it would have been so easy for valiant to just give up. And they didn’t, they didn’t blame COVID, they pivoted. And they set up a mini stage in this studio that they have in Meridian, where you can rent this space for them to go there. And they will film your presentation. This is what I did for my rebel for life presentation. With the lights and the smoke and the 4k cameras and the music and on the LED screens behind you. It looks like a real live huge Tony Robbins stage with just shoot, it looks amazing. And you record your presentation from there, instead of because nobody’s putting on an event. So now people fly into Meridian, and they record their presentation there. How clever is that? that impresses me so much that a company does not blame COVID even though that was the reason for their events, stopping what the reason was COVID they didn’t blame COVID. They pivoted What can we do? They said, I have so much respect for that. Because so many companies collapsed. And when under instead of thinking what can we do? I know this personal trainer in Boise, who, when COVID hit last spring, all the gyms closed, and he set up a Go Fund Me for himself. I liked it just disgusts me to even think about that. When all the other trainers transitioned to online training. They started doing zoom training, what can we do, I can train my clients online, where they were watching their clients in the living room and they were helping them out or whatever, it was all remote. And we had people like me who created I created by the way I created couch to the gym, which is an at home workout 12 week at home workout long before COVID. But okay, I created it in 2019. But all these trainers they pivoted and they created at home workouts that didn’t need a gym. And they they were able to feed their families. But this bullcrap trainer set up a GoFundMe account for himself. What the heck is that baloney? Oh, I was so mad when I heard that I was like, really seriously. That’s somebody who’s blaming other things instead of taking responsibility and saying I’m responsible for feeding myself, I’m responsible for somehow figuring out a way to get my information out there to the community that needs to hear what I have to say. And coming back around to you. I’m telling you, if you are placing blame on anything but you you got to step back and take a good long, hard look in the mirror and say, Hmm, because ultimately, the buck stops with you. It is 100% all you that you gained your weight back. It’s 100% all you that you did not adhere to the rules of keeping your weight off. What is it? You have to continue to get on the scale every morning. You have to continue to drink 100% of your water every single day. And you never never never allow sugar to come in your house ever in you broke the rules. And the weight is now coming back on. Well my kids well my husband well my in laws well well baba baba baba, but no see, all you need to do is you say it’s 100% my fault that I gained my weight back period. Don’t stay another word after that. Stop and put your hands in your pockets. That’s how it goes. Don’t feel like you got to justify what happened to you. This happens all the time when people are talking about their weight gain. They always especially to me they always always give me an excuse. They can’t not I’ve never had anybody not give me an excuse. I’ve never had anybody just say it’s 100% all me that I get My Way back and actually stop talking after that. And just look at me. No, no, no, no, no, no hundred percent of the time. They all have got to give me up but this happened edited, edited, edited, edited, edited it. If Kris Gethin were to come to me, you know, I worked with Kris Gethin for 12 weeks, when COVID hit, I think it was April, all of April all of may and all of June.

And if he would have come to me, and he would have said, Cristy, why haven’t you kept up your work? Why have you kept up your program that I wrote for you? Like, what, have you kept it up? No. And I wouldn’t even bother to say why. I would never even dream in a million years of saying to Kris Gethin why I never kept up the workouts. And well, it was. See now here, I’m starting to do it. I’m starting to do to you, I just start See, I caught myself. I just started doing it to you. I almost just say, Well, this is the reason why Baba Baba and I started to rattle off the reasons No, Christina, you kept up your workout? No, I haven’t kept up my workouts. No, Christie, have you kept up your diet? No. I love my diet slip. Actually, he’s asked me a couple times. And I’ve told him just like that. No, I haven’t. This is how much weight I gained back. This is what I’m looking like. Now. Here are my pictures. Like I mean, I would never dream in a million years saying to him, Well, I’ll tell you what, you know, well, I started doing some traveling again. And then things got a little stressful, then we had some Code Red  events. And no, I would never dream of saying that because I would never even dream out loud or even saying I’ve never even think it. Because ultimately it doesn’t matter what happens you you make time for what’s important to you. And you prioritize your health you don’t you keep up your weight loss or you don’t you let yourself go or you don’t. But by golly, don’t blame anything else is blaming versus accountability. It hurts to take responsibility for yourself. It hurts to admit it does it hurts, it hurts so bad. It hurts to to just stand there and just grit your teeth and say, Yeah, I let myself go hundred percent gain back at six pounds. And really, truly believe in your heart. It’s all you and you could have prevented this from happening. If you just would have stuck with what you knew. If you just would have kept up with the what I taught you. It hurts to take responsibility, it hurts to turn the blame back on you and just take it full on take it on the chin. We used to say in boxing to take on the chin. Take it like we say take it like a man. I know a whole lot of tougher women than men. You don’t want to get in the ring with 154 pound girl men, she is strong. So take it like a woman. Some of you guys truly, truly need to hear what I have to say here on this podcast. I don’t know. And it might not be for everybody. There’s some of you guys that just don’t have. You just don’t have a problem doing this. Some of you do. Some of you have. You have played games with yourself. You have made deals with yourself. And let me tell you made deals with the devil. Don’t do that. Don’t screw around like that. Because look where it’s gotten you some of you gain back your weight and too dangerous game you’re playing something I should tread on. You’ve got to take responsibility for yourself. Responsibility versus blame, accountability versus blame. Stop putting the blame on everything and everybody else and turn it back on you and just own it. And then do something about it. Don’t just admit it while you’re shoving the coat the Oreos in the wind down your throat. Don’t just like get by no I’m doing this and then keep doing it. If you truly are sick of feeling this way, then do something about it. The next 10 pound take down challenge is starting soon. I expect you to be on it. Or if you’re sick of this whole lose gain lose gain, lose gain, lose gain, lose gain, lose gain, lose gain lose gain, they get a custom program, you can find when a Code Red  lifestyle.com click on coaching or click on programs something like that you can find it there read about it. That’s where we can get 10% of your body weight off every month without shakes pills diet foods or exercise a 10 pound take down as 10 pound take down Calm the number 10 p o u and D take down comm I’ll link it up in the show notes. And that’s where you can lose at least 10 pounds in 30 days by following a very simple rules. Bottom line is you got to do something so either do Code Red  or do whole 30 or do freaking something that doesn’t get any better by you just sitting here day after day week after week month after month year after year. Just letting yourself continue to be sick and fat stop placing blame own it and do something about it turn doing about face and do something about registere for the challenge has to first step okay. I hope you enjoyed this episode of rebel weight loss and lifestyle here my heart No I care. I say the hard things because I love you. I’ll see you on the next

Unknown Speaker  24:59  

episode.

Cristy  25:01  

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