I get some pretty interesting questions about how to stay on track.

I remember one a couple of years ago where someone asked me how to “not cheat”…

As if the cheating was happening TO them, and they were powerless to stop it.

Listen, unless someone breaks into your house, holds you down, and shoves the food in your mouth, cheating didn’t happen TO you.

Somehow, some way, you chose to do it.

If reading that stings or ticks you off, stick with me, because I’m about to set you free.

When you make a choice to go off plan, most people in your life are gonna tell you it’s okay and “understandable” that you went off the rails for whatever reason.

And part of you is FOR SURE gonna justify the crap out of it.

But not me. I cannot join the chorus of inside and outside voices who tell you it’s A-okay….

Because I care about you too much to be another echo chamber who tells you what you want to hear so you feel better about self-sabotaging behaviors.

To be clear, this doesn’t mean I want you to hate yourself or anything.

Beating yourself up and then using that as more justification for self-sabotage hasn’t worked for you, either.

What I’m saying is that until you start taking ownership of your CHOICE to go off plan…

…instead of using outside circumstances to JUSTIFY going off plan…

…then you will continue to feel powerless to STOP going off plan.

The purpose of truly owning that YOU, and no one else, are responsible for going off the rails, is how you give yourself the freedom and power to STOP.

And hey, I get how comfy and righteous it feels to blame stuff outside yourself for all your problems.

I also get how weak and powerless and HOPELESS you feel when you do it.

It’s time to start owning that your weight loss is up to YOU…

While also being honest with yourself about whether being accountable only to yourself is enough right now.

If you’re stuck in a pattern of self-sabotage, being accountable to yourself may not be enough YET.

So here’s what you can do.

Step 1: Take off that mental “victim jacket” and recognize that your actions are your responsibility and no one else’s.

Step 2: Get (and especially) STAY connected to a community of people on the same journey where you can be accountable and have supportive outside voices to offset that inner saboteur.

Your choices are your responsibility AND you don’t have to do it all on your own.

Get connected. Stay connected. There’s strength in numbers!