What Is This Episode About…

Don’t waste a crisis! Take the crappy parts of your life and turn them into a message to help others.

As the saying goes, a smart person learns from his mistakes, but a wise person learns from the mistakes of others. Taking your mess and turning it into a message for other people to learn from and avoid their own mess is a great service to humanity.

Listen to Cristy’s incredible story as she takes us through her life and how she turned around her mess into her message. Before she was 40, she acknowledges she didn’t do much with her life and didn’t contribute much to society. She had a few high moments, but she didn’t contribute to changing people’s lives. All this changed when she launched Code Red, where she has transformed regular people’s lives in a big way. 

Cristy says whatever mess she went through in the past is what made her and the Code Red Lifestyle into what it is now. Code Red wouldn’t have come about if all those messes hadn’t happened to her. 

Cristy’s story inspires everyone out there that you can turn around your mess into a powerful message. It doesn’t matter what you are going through right now or have gone through in the past. You can turn it all around and be an inspiration to other people. 

Every person has a message they can share with society, everybody can contribute positively. Don’t be sad about your messes, package them into your message, and change people’s lives. 

Key Takeaways

• Cristy’s mess earlier in her life and how she turned it into her message (03:02)
• Whatever you went through in the past made you who you are now (12:52)
• Being more compassionate about people going through struggles of life (14:49)
• How Cristy’s mess had molded her and the Code Red Lifestyle (16:23)
• Taking your mess and turning it into your message for other people to learn from (18:27)
• Don’t underestimate the power of your story (24:15)
• Don’t let your mess go to waste (25:02)

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When Was It Released…

This episode was released September 30,2020

Episode Transcript…

The Transcript Is Auto Generated And May Contain Spelling And Grammar Errors

Cristy  0:00  

What is that saying? a smart man learns from his own mistakes, but a wise man learns from other people’s mistakes. You know, you get it. I’m sure I’m saying that wrong, but you get it. Talk about Yeah, if you can repackage your message and turning into a message for other people to be able to learn from and avoid their own bullcrap mess, heck, yeah, hot dog. Let’s do it. And that’s what I’ve been able to do. And I’m telling you right now, as God is my witness, I would not have traded any of that crap for anything. I’m Cristy

Unknown Speaker  0:32  

Code Red and you’re listening to rebel weight loss and lifestyle, where we believe food holds the power to heal or poisoned, and we believe our society has been misled regarding proper nutrition and weight loss. You’re in the right place if you’re looking for some straight up truth, because I’m here to shed light on the lies and brainwashing that has taken place over the past five decades. Thanks so much for listening.

Cristy  1:09  

Welcome back to rebel weight loss in lifestyle. I’m your host, Cristy Code Red, author, entrepreneur, retired professional boxer. It is so good to have you with me right now. Thank you, thank you, whether you’re commuting in your car, you’re getting ready, you’re getting hair makeup done. You’re on your run, I listen to podcasts when I’m on my run. I just appreciate it. I appreciate you trusting me enough and spending your time with me your very precious time we talk about encode read, to guard your time to clean out your newsfeed to make sure that you surround yourself with like minded people. So by the fact that you’re listening to me right now just tells me that my content is worthy enough for your ears. And I know that sounds a little bit silly. But you know, I teach you to don’t listen to crap and don’t watch crap that doesn’t pour into you. So at least you think that I’m worthy enough to pour into you. And I think I am too. I think that this is good content. I think it’s going to help you and encourage you support education, information and love show. I appreciate you, I really do you being here right now means a lot to me, and I don’t take it lightly. We’re talking about making a message of your mess. I almost said, make a mess of your message. By the way. I have done that. And that’s why I’m here today to tell you how not to do it and you know, making a message of your mess. full credit goes to Joyce Meyer, for coming up with that saying, what I like to do is I listened to a lot of Joyce Meyer consume a lot of her content. I’m a Joyce Meyer fan. I’m a partner with her. And I love her little one liners. And that’s one of her one liner says she just she didn’t even title a sermon or anything out of it or a message. It was just like she just said in passing. And I was like, Whoa, that’ll preach. My dad used to say that’ll preach. We’re making a message of your mess. If anybody knows anything about a mess, it is me. I never started really contributing to this society. I never started making a difference until I was 40 years old. And I realized that’s a bold statement. Like, oh, Cristy, like, Oh, you didn’t know I’m not putting myself down. I’m telling you. Like, you know, I mean, what I didn’t really do much with my life. Before I was 40 anything that I would consider to be worthy. You know, I I moved around doing waitressing jobs. So I needed never paid a whole lot of taxes. I hadn’t finished college. I you know, when I was younger, I had a lot of disastrous relationships. I never had any kids, which is probably a good idea. After I get ready to do this after I’m done doing this podcast, you’re like good things. You never had any kids. You know, I didn’t really do anything. I wasn’t that great of a sister. I wasn’t that great of a partner. I didn’t really contribute. I didn’t really do much with my life. You know, I had a few high moments. You know, I was professional fighter. You know, I have a title. You can see it behind me. I traveled a lot. But as far as really pouring into people’s lives and making this world a better place. So I didn’t really do that until I was 40. I didn’t I know when I was a personal trainer. But I don’t know how much joy I truly brought to people’s lives until I really went full on into Code Red. Until I really wrote my book, The Code Red revolution. I mean, I had my show and own show on MTV called MTV made. And yeah, I mean, you know, whatever difference that show made, but it wasn’t that big of a deal. I was voted New York’s best trainer and featured in Allure magazine. But what is it what so what I trained celebrities, I mean, it didn’t really apply to regular people. I it’s like I understand making a mess of my life. But I have definitely turned my mess into my message. When I first got out of high school, I was so desperate to leave my little town that I was raised in, I’m from a small town called orofino. It’s about five hours north of Boise where I live now. And I knew there was more out there for me, I knew I wanted to experience other parts of the country, you know, I grew up pretty poor, we didn’t have money to be able to travel, we didn’t fly anywhere. My first plane trip was when I was 18 years old, we didn’t go really anywhere that we couldn’t, you know, go in a car or travel to in a car and camp along the way, because we couldn’t afford hotel rooms. So it’s just we just didn’t experience other cultures or other parts of the country and other ways of thinking and other accents and stuff. And I knew that there was more out there. And so I left. And part of how

I handled leaving and getting out of my town, and the only out that I could see was hooking up with a guy who was in the Marine Corps. And that meant I got to leave. And that meant the military would pay for me leaving and moving and traveling around. And, you know, when I was growing up you I was raised strict Pentecostal, and you just didn’t you just you got married, you never had sex before marriage. That was absolutely not. So if you wanted to have sex, well, you better get married, you know, and if you and that’s just what you do. And I just thought everybody was like my dad, and that everybody was, you know, like, nice to my mom. And you know, like, I just thought that that’s how all men were. I didn’t understand the reality of things because my mom and dad didn’t really discuss the real true way that marriage is the truth, the fighting, the arguing, the disagreeing the difficult parts of marriage, my mom and dad kept that behind closed doors and never talked about that with us girls. And I don’t fault my folks for a whole lot. I really don’t I really love the way we were raised. But if my parents could have really sat us down and told us about the reality of marriage, that could have saved me a couple of failed marriages that I’ve had. I just wanted what my parents had. And I didn’t understand that that doesn’t come easy.

Unknown Speaker  7:17  

So

Cristy  7:18  

I ran off with a guy that was who appeared to be a nice guy. And he was nice through high school. And he ended up being an absolute horrific monster. You know, he made me steal. He made me steal clothes from a department store, assist him and stealing. He took me to a strip club and asked me to go in and get a job and I didn’t want to I didn’t want to strip. He got angry with me and punched his fist through a car window. He hit me, he choked me. And those things that he did physically to me. That’s nothing compared to the mental damage. He laughed at me all the time, like made fun of me. always told me that I never amount to anything I’ve shared with you guys that I was driving past a small dumpy, total ghetto community college, and I dreamt about being one of those students with a little backpack walking in. I mean, I dreamt about going to college. I wanted to go to college. So so so bad, and he just talked told me all the time that I was dumb that I would never amount to anything, couldn’t do anything. Right. He always he has he’s very manipulative, and he’s really good at making you feel so stupid and everything. And I didn’t have you know, the confidence I have now. So I just believed him. I didn’t know any different. I was just an Idaho farm girl. I just thought everybody treats everybody come with kindness and what a mess I was in until one night I got the bravery enough. I got the courage to leave. When he was passed out one time drunk and passed out and I got the courage to leave talk about a mess. I never went back. Talk about a mess. Talk about an embarrassment. humiliated. me. My parents were so upset with me anyway that I ran off with this guy. My credit was ruined, because he had let a car get repossessed. And here I am at 1819 years old. I have ruined credit. And it shows on my credit that I get let a car get repossessed. I mean, he let all the bills lapse and the credit cards everything went into default. All that was on my credit. My credit was ruined for seven years after that. I couldn’t get credit anywhere. Talk about a mess. Talk about crawling back to my family. humiliated back at Ground Zero with nothing but bad credit, no money, nothing but the clothes on my back nothing but a backpack full of a few things. I had lost all my photo albums, my baby books, my high school yearbooks, everything he had throw them in the dumpster. I had nothing you know a few years later I ran away again you know like night didn’t run off with a guy This time, but I’m sure I ran off with a guy but I didn’t marry him and found myself even on the side of the road had run out of gas and had to wash dishes at a local truck stop in order to earn enough to feed myself and for $5 for gas to keep going. This was somewhere in rural Illinois. Talk about a mess sleeping in my car, talk about a mess. How many times have I stood in the food bank line for food? Just to feed myself how many times if I slept on somebody’s couch? You know, it seems like I always took one step forward. And two steps back. I didn’t, I couldn’t make any headway. I didn’t know. I failed out of school, I failed classes. I desperately wanted to be a nurse. But I didn’t understand because I didn’t understand how student loans work. You know, and I, I didn’t pay back my student loans at first. So they went into default with that crap stays on your record, like so many messes. So many messes years later, I think I got it figured out right? Get with another guy. He ends up being just a scam artist, steals $36,000 from me and uses it he’s into some he was into some kind of a sexual preference kind of thing. Again, I’m really trying to keep this clean. And I’m not judging people who are into that. But I am not into that. And that should have been disclosed before you get with somebody. Oh, hey, I’m into the sex fetish thing at all. Like, do you want to take part in it? No, I don’t know. Thank you Goodbye, and ends up stealing money from me and leaves me with nothing. After he earned my trust. My goodness, you know, I just couldn’t seem to get the hang of things. I just couldn’t seem to get ahead. You know, I never once blamed anybody. I mean, maybe it sounds like I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m being a victim right now. But I didn’t, you know, you earn someone’s trust, and you kind of partner up with them and think and we’re gonna kind of we’re gonna tackle life together, and then they end up stealing from you. Yeah, I’m kind of a rough situation there. I mean, of course, now, I’m much smarter. I meet someone like Miles, who is the most trustworthy guy on the planet, we still get a prenup, you know, because I finally learned my lesson, even with a trustworthy guy like Miles, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess, mess all over the place. Everything seemed to be a mess. I go into debt, or I lose

a job or, you know, get hooked up with the wrong Dude, you know, and, and then, of course, I break up with the right dudes, like, I had a real couple of really great guys, you know, and I, and I ruin that relationship wouldn’t make great husbands, you know, like, I just can’t seem to get anything, right. I’ve made such a mess of so many parts of my life. And I share this with you to set up the story to set up the podcast, but to also, I want you to know, I understand I get it. I mean, that’s just a few of the things that have happened, there are more things, so many things that I’ve made a mess of, and you don’t think that you can do anything with that. But I truly would not have changed any of it. Because that’s what got me to where I am now. That’s who that’s what made me into the person I am now I’m a bit jaded. Yes. I mean, I have been with Myles for like 10 years, and yet not quite 10 years. And yet, I’m still like, we are very, like we don’t share money. We are very much down the middle of 5050 everything we signed contracts for things. I mean, the guy is the most trustworthy man on the face this planet. I trust him more than I trust myself. And yet I still always see why a right I’m always like, no, we’re just gonna put that in a contract. And he has to you know, I mean, he went through a divorce and leaves you kind of bitter. And so we’re very careful about keeping everything under contract. Everything’s Shepherd, everything’s tight and locked down. And there’s no wiggle room on anything. You know. And I know that sounds real strange. We don’t share anything. We split everything down the middle, even going out to dinner. I mean, why should he have to pay for my dinner? Why should he with his own money? I don’t see it. I say everybody pay for themselves. Unless for some reason that you’re treating somebody to a birthday dinner or something. And we do that. But I’m just very much in a fair and a 5050 kind of relationship. I don’t we don’t have any. And I’m sure had I met Myles wasn’t when I was 18 I wouldn’t be like this, because he wasn’t like this either. We both have kind of turned into who we are. So there are some things that have happened that I’ve turned into I’m pretty I mean, I wouldn’t say I’m hard hearted but I’m pretty hard on the outside. You know, I’m pretty thick skin. I don’t trust a lot of people, especially when I do trust people. And my circle of trust is very, very, very small. I have learned especially as big as Code Red has gotten I have learned to shrink and very much protect my circle of trust. So things have happened because of my you know, kind of some negative things have happened to me. You know, I’ve turned into maybe turned a couple of negative because of my mess. But my gosh, I am compassionate about people who are in domestic violence relationships. I am compassionate about people who have repossessions on the records that was their idiot spouse that was supposed to pay the bill and didn’t. You know, I’m compassionate about people who have been ambushed and people who have been robbed, and people who have had crap happened to them that they didn’t ask or deserve, all they’re doing is going to work and just trying to feed their kids, I’m compassionate about that kind of stuff. That’s me taking my message and making a message out of it. I am so direct with you guys. I wish that my folks would have been very, very, very direct with me. I’m a very literal thinker. And I’ve always been this way even since I was a little kid. And perhaps if they would have been very direct with me and set it very black and white for me, I would not have made a mess out of my life in these certain areas. Maybe. So, hopefully, me telling you, this is why I’m this direct right now. I mean, I have, I am just not going to make that same mistake, I’m going to make sure that you understand me very clearly. on exactly what I’m saying to you. I’m trying to repeat back the question that way. I know what you’re saying, because I only hear things you know one way, if I hear them at all, I got a hearing loss. Well, that’s not funny, but I can make fun of myself. And I repeat back the question, this is what I’m understanding. You’re saying, okay, here’s your answer, bam. like nobody can mistake what I mean. But I would not change those things for anything. Because they have helped mold the code read lifestyle, they have helped mold me into the very direct and honest and aggressive person that I am. You’re not going to wonder what I mean when I say something to you show many people tiptoe around things nowadays. They just want they don’t want to hurt your feelings well guess what? So many people trying to protect me when I was coming up and they didn’t want to hurt my feelings. Well, I made a mess of my life. I don’t want that to happen to you. I wish people would have been more direct with me. Maybe I would have learned my lesson.

Maybe I would have finished nursing school. Maybe I would have gone on to medical school. I don’t know maybe I could have done something even bigger. I don’t know. But I still wouldn’t trade anything that happened to me, I would do it all over again. Because look at what Code Red is doing now we’re able to help so many people in the greater good is taking place the greater good is that thousands of people having hope and healing. They’re finding hope and healing from code read. Thousands of people are relating to what I say. And I’m saying it like this because of the crap that’s happened to me. I say it the way I say it. So I am absolutely making a message of my mess. Look at what has happened to you in your life. Look at the circumstances. Look at the crap the crap you didn’t ask for the crap you don’t deserve. You didn’t deserve. All the times you’ve been abandoned and rejected. All the times that this has happened to you? Are you making a message out of this now? Look at your weight loss journey. Have you documented your weight loss journey? Look at the things you’ve gone through. Maybe the times you’ve slipped and fallen during your weight loss journey, maybe the times you push through when you could have slipped and fallen off the wagon and you didn’t that mess is now becoming your message. turning it around packaging it up and then regurgitating it for other people to learn from. What does that saying a smart man learns from his own mistakes, but a wise man learns from other people’s mistakes. You know, you get it. I’m sure I’m saying that wrong. But you get it. Talk about Yeah, if you can repackage your message and turning into a message for other people to be able to learn from and avoid their own bullcrap mess. Heck, yeah, hot dog. Let’s do it. And that’s what I’ve been able to do. And I’m telling you right now, as God is my witness, I would not have traded any of that crap for anything. I really wouldn’t have. I know what it feels like. My dad and mom were hard on us. Growing up, we worked very hard. And my dad was a disciplinarian. And he feels bad about the way that he raised us girls because he was harsh with us. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything because all three of us girls are respectful adults. And we’re hard working adults. So my folks instilled that hard work ethic into us. It doesn’t help to complain about it. It needs to get done. So just do it. There is no option to not pick the hay out of the field. You have to get the bales of hay out of the field or your horse Cristy doesn’t eat this winter. Like me I just swiped my parents are like No, they didn’t give us an option. We had to do our work. So now I don’t have an option. Believe me. Yeah, I mean, I want to sit on the couch or read a Cosmo magazine works got to get done though. Right before I started filming this, you know, I had to film a whole bunch of ads. I have an ad agency. They’ll give me a new script for ads that we want to we want we want to refresh our ads. Keep it relevant Oh, I don’t like those. I don’t like filming those you guys because I have to follow a script. They’re very strict Facebook and Facebook is very strict and even Google very strict on what you say, in your ad, you can’t say certain words, if it gets your ads taken down. And that’s just not my style, I want to be able to freestyle it, I want to be able to adlib, but I want to be able to just say what I want to say in the aggressive tone that I want to use. And so filming ads for the ad agency is not fun for me because I got to memorize a script. And I have to say it the way they want me to say it, why don’t want anyone want it. I don’t want anybody to tell me how to say it. Right? Well, so I don’t like doing them. And I always put it off. I mean, you look at my to do list for those of you guys who are watching on YouTube, here’s my to do list, everything is crossed off. And the last thing left to do was film the ad scripts. And ah, but I didn’t want to do it. But I did it. And so my work ethic that my focus instilled into me growing up, it helped create who I am right now. And it helped me say, hey, and nobody’s going to film these ads for you, you’ve got to do them, and you’re leaving town tomorrow. So you absolutely have to do them now. Stop putting it off and film those stupid ads. My mess has become my message, the way that I was raised, although my folks might think it was harsh. And yes, it was a little harsh, has turned me into the person I am now. reaching millions, writing books, creating content, code red is saving lives. All the time, people are taking their lives back because a code read and it wouldn’t have happened had I not had all those things happen to me, starting from my childhood, all the way until two days ago. Everything is forming me into who I am right now all the time. Well, you can look at your mess and be crying about it or you can repackage it and turn it into your message. It’s all the way you look at things. Every single one of you has a message. Every single one of you has something to say. And you have

a way to contribute to society. Don’t wait till you’re 40 to contribute to society. Don’t just kind of flutter through life like I did for my first 40 years. I didn’t really accomplish much. I didn’t help society, that’s for sure. But now I am. Don’t wait like I did do it. Now. Think of your mess into how could you repurpose it? How did you repackage it and turn it into your message? Don’t waste that mess. James Friel my business coach says never waste a crisis. Never waste a crisis. Anytime that anything bad happens to me. I always think Can I make a video out of this? Can I make a podcast out of this? Can I tell people about this? I mean, I’m, I want to bring it to you guys and say yeah, here’s where I screwed up. Here’s what you can do. Think of your messes like that. Try that. Instead of just lamenting instead of just hanging your head and just pouting about it. Oh, I’m so bad. Poor me. I’m dumb. I never accomplished anything. Can you repackage that into content for your kids, for your family, for other people, for your neighbor for your cousin’s wife? Someone needs to hear what you have to say. Start thinking of it that way. Man, my niece was going through something. I don’t want to uncover her. So I’m going to be real vague. When I repeat this back, she was going through something with her ex and I went through the exact same thing. And I said to her see, your auntie Cristy has gone through the exact same thing. I know exactly what you’re feeling right now in your heart. I know. I remember. And I said back to her. This is what happened to me, Baba Baba. And this is what I was feeling. And she said, Yeah, and Cristy, I’m feeling that exact same thing. Yeah, I get it. And I think just hearing the someone like my heart was breaking for her because I remember that moment when it happened to me. And I think just hearing that, somehow just knowing that there’s somebody across the globe from you. Even if they’re not right there next to you. They could be in the next town or the next state or halfway across the United States and you’re new know, that they’re kind of looking up at the same stars as you you know what I’m saying? Like they’re like they feel you and even if it’s thousands of miles away, it feels better knowing that somebody understands. And you are under estimating the power of your story, your message, you’re under estimating the reach. You’re under estimating your ripple effect if you don’t share your message. If you don’t take that message and turn it into a message. You’re doing a disservice to your fellow man. Put out that story put out that message. Don’t let your mess go to waste. Now at 44 years old, I’m comfortable talking about because I was just talking let me finish my sentence comfortable talking about what happened to me before because it’s embarrassing you know, it’s embarrassing saying that they were two repossessions on my credit my credits excellent. Now, by the way, I repaired my credits into the into the eight hundreds and it’s excellent and I’m super happier that, you know, it’s so such a far cry from when I started, it was like, I mean, the bottom of the barrel, it was like, I don’t know, 530 or something. It was horrible. You guys, I remember going into my banker at Jackson and I dedicated my book to him. And I was at my lowest of my low and I went into a, I went into us bank where he was working at the time. And I sat down and I was so embarrassed you guys, I couldn’t even look him in the eye. And I just said, I have really bad credit. And I said, How is there any hope for me? And he didn’t, he treated me like a human, you know, so many people, they’ll treat you bad when you have bad credit, I get that. I know that. And it wasn’t even, you know, quote unquote, my fault, you know, and some of it wasn’t my fault. Some of it was I defaulted on my student loans. And I said aid. How can I repair this? He said, Cristy, it can be done. And over the next few years, he helped me repair my credit, you know, but he didn’t he didn’t treat me bad like I you know. And now I can turn around, I can turn it into a message and say, Hey, I get it. I understand. And this is you. This is what I’m talking about for you. How can you turn around your mess into your message, don’t let it go to waste. Share it.

Talk about it. Be authentic, people can sniff out a phony from a mile away. Don’t try to sugarcoat it. Let’s just call a spade a spade. People are so sick of filtered, photoshopped, and fake. The sick of it. They don’t want to hear that anymore. They’re sick of perfect Instagram models. The sick of perfect relationships were the perfect shot of your you and your boyfriend kissing on you. Life is not like that marriage is not like that. All right. Marriage is bad breath and poop and in fight about your kids. Like not all the time, but let’s be real. I love Myles more than I did when I first met him. But Gosh, darn it, that guy drives me flat bonkers sometimes. Can we just talk about the real stuff. Nobody wants to be talked to like they’re fake. You know, like, like, you’re fake. You don’t want to be fake to people. Just be real and honest. There’s nothing embarrassing about sharing your message. Especially if it can help somebody. I encourage you to do this. I encourage you to come out and talk about what you’ve been through. Just like I have and like I’ll continue to do it doesn’t make you respect me the less does it I mean, are you thinking to yourself God dang it. I’m not following Cristyne anymore. That’s ridiculous. She had two repossessions on a credit from an ex oh my gosh, that’s horrible. You’re not thinking that. You’re thinking oh god Cristy gets me. Yeah. And you know what Cristy made something of herself. And you can too. Anyway, I think you get my point 10 Lb takedown calm is the best place to start. I always say that on this podcast, but I want you to know if you need some help with weight loss. If you need some help taking your life back if you need some help getting your health in order. Join a 10 pound take down challenge. That is always the best place to start get off medication. Get off your C pap machine. I’m let me just say let me back up and say many people have gotten off medication many people have gotten off their c pap machine. Many people have had relief and joint pain and migraine headaches and back pain and all kinds of horrific things that they’ve gone through eczema rosacea. It’s a suppressing of can cancer cells. You know, a lot of people have experienced that. And you can too. It’s amazing. When you heal yourself through good nutrition, what can happen you can take your whole life changes everything levels up. 10 pound take down. I’ll see you on the next challenge. Thank you for joining me, take care of you guys. Love you all.

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