75: It’s A Choice, Not A Feeling

What Is This Episode About…

In every area of our lives, we get those warm, fuzzy feelings about certain commitments. But when those feelings go away, it will take daily choice in order to stay on course.

Committing to the Code Red lifestyle and any other important aspect of life is a choice and not a feeling. You have to make a choice and recommit to it daily.  When your motivation is based on some hype or excitement or on feelings, you’ll struggle when things get hard.

What keeps you going when the journey gets hard? it has to be something deeper than the hype or the feelings. You have to find that intrinsic motivation within you.

If you are to stay on track, you have to make a daily choice rather than rely on those fuzzy feelings. These feelings will surely go away. It is more about choices than feelings. Then you have to surround yourself with people you are on the same path with. These two are stable foundations for getting where you want.

These choices we are talking about apply to every area of your life, not just in weight loss. Your marriage, relationships, parenting, etc. You have to recommit every day to the areas of life we want to do well.

Key Takeaways

  • When your motivation is rooted in hype and excitement, you’ll struggle when things get hard (02:31)
  • What keeps you going? (09:41)
  • Finding intrinsic motivation for your weight loss journey (11:06)
  • Nobody can want it for you more than you want it for yourself (18:30)
  • Seeing the reward down the road instead of the reward right in front of you (21:04)
  • What’s keeping you on track? It has to be something so far beyond those fuzzy feelings (23:33)
  • Why you need to surround yourself with like-minded people to stay on track (27:26)
  • You can’t rely on feelings, you have to make a choice every day (29:26)

Learn More About The Content Discussed…

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When Was It Released…

This episode was released August 26, 2020

Episode Transcript…

The Transcript Is Auto Generated And May Contain Spelling And Grammar Errors

 

Cristy  0:00  

You know, Karen, you just don’t want it bad enough. Yes. When you get sick of being fat, and you get sick of what you see in the mirror, then you’ll do it and because she’s she want to meet she said, what could you say to motivate me? I’m not gonna stand here and motivate like, What? You got to look in your mirror naked when Ain’t nobody around and say, I don’t like the way I look. I don’t like the way I feel because I’m having too much sugar. And I just kind of shrugged and just said, it’s just not your time.

 

Intro  0:29  

I’m CristyCode Red and you’re listening to rebel weight loss and lifestyle, where we believe food pulls the power to heal or poison, and we believe our society has been misled regarding proper nutrition and weight loss. You’re in the right place if you’re looking for some straight-up truth because I’m here to shed light on the lies and brainwashing that has taken place over the past five decades. Thanks so much for listening.

 

Cristy  0:56  

Welcome back to rebel weight loss and lifestyle with CristyCode Red And Carrie, I’m gonna quit saying I’m the hostess. Carrie, you’re there with me almost on every single episode. Whatever, like, let’s just make sure that you’re you know, it’s with Cristy and Carrie, thank you for being with me.

 

Cari  1:12  

You’re welcome. And I want to tell everyone my favorite thing to do on Wednesday mornings is to watch the podcast while I am making Sergeant Major breakfast. I put my phone up a little holder, I put my ear pod in my air pods and Cristy and I watched a podcast is my favorite thing to do hands down.

 

Cristy  1:31  

It is it’s like is that weird that we like to listen to our own podcast? I don’t know if that’s weird. But you know what it does for me? When I listen to the challenge the daily challenge videos in the podcast. it reaffirms what we believe it’s like a daily recommitment. Absolutely. And

 

Cari  1:46  

it does for me too. And I find myself going Uh-huh. That’s right. Do you know? Yeah, you go CariCristy. That’s exactly right. And then I’m like, okay, I am talking to my phone with my air pods in by myself in the kitchen.

 

Cristy  2:00  

Hmm, I do the same thing. And I think that’s a great segue into today’s podcast, you guys, we’re talking about it being a choice, not a feeling, because I just said, we recommit daily. And that’s what it helps me with the challenge videos because we have our foundational core beliefs and values that will always teach no matter what, and that it is being a code, red rebel, and really many other areas of our life, it boils down to being a choice and not a feeling.

 

Cari  2:31  

And I think this is where people get mixed up. cracy is when your motivation is rooted in the hype. You’re going to struggle when things get hard. When your motivation is rooted in the noise and the group and the excitement and the videos and the prizes and Q and A’s, then you’re going to struggle when things get hard. And this is what we noticed on a daily basis. Everything’s exciting

 

Cristy  2:59  

and The beginning. I mean, I’ve been with my husband Myles for almost 10 years. And I mean just you know, being around him. In fact, he’s in the other room, I’m sure listening, he might pop his head around the corner and look at me as I talk about this. But you know, when the beginning of course, when we all met our spouses, and we all got into our relationships with our partners, you know, in the beginning, of course, you know, my heart would pound and I get sweaty and my knees would get weak every time he walked in the room, but like Joyce Meyer says, After 50 years of marriage today, my knees don’t get weak when he walks in the room, you know, and so definitely and yeah, he’s looking at me right now. Yeah, I know it. And so and I know that that’s and we love our spouses. That’s nothing but we commit to the relationship whether we get weak need or not. Exactly Cristyand we find that when

 

Cari  3:47  

people start a challenge, of course, we want you to join the challenge because you are excited about there are some fun things on challenge. You know, the Q and A’s are fun. We giveaway Redmond real Salt we give away our i o gourmet. Being just teasing, we give away, um, you know, ultimate, so we’re giving away It’s fun. People are excited, you’re losing weight, you’re detoxing together, you’re growing together. So I don’t want to discount that. That is not a very real thing. That is not a really real thing but Chrissy it’s like, getting married because you want the big party of a wedding. Hmm. And not being prepared for the realities of what marriage is really like. And that is the exact same thing as weight loss is we don’t start a weight loss program because of all this fun and sheesh boombod Whoo. because let me tell you 2am is gonna strike you’re gonna get up for something to drink and those doritos are gonna call your name from the cupboard, and there’s nobody around there’s no videos there’s no you will get a Redmond Real Salt. You’ll get a you know, there’s no no one’s cheering you on. So it’s got to be about something deeper than just the excitement of the initial part of being that part of that process.

 

Cristy  5:08  

And it’s not a matter of if it’s a matter of when happens to you, because it’s gonna happen to you, you will be tempted to stray in some way, shape or form of every single area of your life. And you remember when you first gave your life to Christ, right, like when you first came to Jesus, and it was so exciting because you found out that Jesus had died on the cross for your sins, and that he loved you so much that He died for us and that, that he’s coming back someday, and that we can live enjoying our life and we get to live with that bigger hope and that support system and then somebody loves us no matter what the true unconditional love. So when you first give your life to Christ, you first learn all this stuff. It’s really incredible you know, and you’re you’re hearing from God and and you’re being guided by God and everything’s a miracle and everything’s big in your and then you know, you get into your walk with Christ and life. Just kind of takes over. And you don’t have those fuzzy feelings anymore. You don’t have that. And it’s kind of like, Oh, so it can apply to anything your marriage, your walk with Christ, your weight loss journey. All these things. Oh, how about when you’ve had your first baby, and it’s so exciting and you had the baby shower and all that stuff. And then you get into the groove. I mean, it can apply to so many different things. But then once you start getting into the everyday motion of things, it just gets mundane and you could lose that. That’s why we don’t go by feelings, because the feelings are going to go away those warm, fuzzy feelings.

 

Cari  6:30  

Cristy, I love what you just said about about giving you’re not laughing about committing your life to God or whatever your religious because we used to go to church camp, y’all. This is back in the day. This is when church camp was

 

Unknown Speaker  6:47  

done. I mean, it was a big,

 

Cari  6:50  

y’all we were raised Pentecostal it was isles it was was tambourines over I mean so I remember the preacher saying If you can serve Jesus when you get home from Camp, that’s what’s important. If you can serve Jesus when you go back to your school and everybody’s sinning and and talking about marijuana and smoking cigarettes, those are the you know, th ose are the things are going to send you straight to hell with your kids. You know, if you were if you were imbibing on that alcohol, if you can serve Jesus when nobody else from your youth group is still serving Jesus, then that’s what the real thing is. And I remember like, Oh, God, help me serve you once I get home from the camp and I’m, and I’m with Carol and Larry terahertz and all the temptations that they have, like, we didn’t have any of that. So I don’t know what I was thinking. But that is true. If you can stay on track. When it’s Margarita Monday, that’s when you have true commitment. If you can stay on track when you get home from church camp. When you get home from Code Redlive. That’s the true test.

 

Cristy  7:55  

You wonder why every single contestant on the biggest loser Except for one, I think it was. It was on 11 seasons, every single contestant except for one and even even this one gained a little bit every single one gainer back with their weight back every single one. And you wonder why that is? It’s because on the biggest loser Ranch, where there are cameras everywhere, where you’re in lockdown, where you can’t go anywhere, there’s no birthdays, or cruises or anniversaries or parties. There’s nothing going on. You’re just there to train to eat and to sleep. Right? Of course, you can lose weight and these guys are losing 15 pounds a week, you know, they’re losing a massive amount of weight and um, don’t get me started on that. But they’re not in the real world. They are around. Only people that are thinking exactly like them. They don’t have any temptations from the real world and then they come home, they lose their weight, they when they come home and immediately start gaining their way back because it’s coming home from church camp.

 

Cari  8:57  

It is coming home from church camp. Okay, remember that time Am I saying that DC talk song on here I won’t sing another one y’all could be saved from that. But back in the day, guys, like the 90s dc talk had a song called Love is a verb. And I love that because love is a verb. It’s not a feeling it’s an action, the same thing. And guys, the same thing applies to weight loss. It’s action. It’s not just that wiggly, jiggly, excited maybe this time it’ll work you but let me be clear, you need those excited moments like you need those. And I’m not saying Biggest Loser, but you need those Biggest Loser moments. You need those q&a giveaways. You need those weak need moments because that’s what gets us started. But what keeps you going? What keeps you going?

 

Cristy  9:45  

And in the weeds, you know, at the time of this recording, we just came off a series of five after hours with Cristy events where we all got to get together. It was church campus church camp. Yeah, it was church camp for rebels, right? And it was so fun because all of our love cups got About filled up I mean, did you know and that’s what’s going to kind of keep us all going you know we were all feeling so down and we couldn’t see each other for all of locked down for all of COVID for the whole year at the time we’re recording this in August and 2020. And all of the whole year has been we couldn’t get together with anybody and we desperately needed that. So you will need times where you need your love cup filled you’re like and same thing like with your walk with Christ. I know you’re like God I need to hear from you. I need something right now. You know you’ve been a Christian for 23 years or you’ve been serving God for all these years. You’ve just been kind of going through the motions and you need your love cup full and every one of us need we need that date with our husband. We need that after hours with Cristy we need that time when God touches you and you feel it. You know we need that time where our boss recognizes us and says you know what you are doing fantastic job. Numbers are up, morale is up. Everything looks good companies running good. We all need that touch from God, quote unquote, you know, we need that moment. And we need that moment. And that does that helps fill us up. So we’re

 

Cari  11:06  

not saying don’t have your church camp moments, we’re just saying, when that wears away, you’re going to have to figure out something else that keeps you going. And it has to be. We’ve talked about intrinsic motivation on this on Cristy’s podcast before, we’ve talked about being intrinsically motivated. But there has to be something intrinsic. You know, I was, you know, Cristyand I were raised, we were spanked, okay, I’m just gonna say it. And I was talking about when you can’t be spanking kids when they’re 12. And 13. Someone I won’t name them was like, looked at me like I was crazy. And I said, there comes a point when they need to obey because it’s the right thing to do. And you just can’t go around smack I’m not I’m not advocating abuse. Please know that. But we were raised being spanked but there comes a point. Where if that’s not the motivation, it has to be because at 13 my god, let’s hope they know that we don’t kick the cat. I mean, let’s talk They understand these things. So there has to be that intrinsic learning that takes place with any kind of journey where you go, I’m going to keep going when no one’s watching, because this is the right thing to do for me. I was just talking to someone the other day that was struggling with her weight loss journey, had lost weight, regained it, and now was struggling to get back where she was. And I said at this point, it needs to not be about the way you look. And it needs to become the fact that every time you eat a meal, this is a diabetic Krissy every time you eat a meal that you shouldn’t, you’re putting yourself closer to dying rather than longevity. So you’re shortening your life instead of lengthening your life. So when that becomes your church camp moment, folks, you don’t need the bells and whistles because you say things are so busy with the kids they’re getting so much older, will do you want to spend time with those kids. Then being a type two diabetic, you’re damaged. Your body every time you choose not to eat correctly. And I’m you know, that’s just the truth of it, guys, you have to look beyond those moments of fitting into that size six or looking great for your wedding or five pounds to the beach. You have to look past that crap. And those church camp moments which are still very valid, too. What is my life going to look like when I can get on top of this weight problem?

 

Cristy  13:26  

Hmm. We talked about the why that makes you cry. We’ve had we’ve done a podcast on that already. And some of you guys remember old school Code Redwhen I was the only one that was coaching. And then when I couldn’t handle the the amount of rebels I asked Carito co coach with me. And then Caritook a group and I took a group and we just have had to keep that’s how we brought on coaches. But old school Code Red was really aggressive and very, very, very intense. And I was intense. And I remember, I remember looking at the camera Like, are you kidding me and I would call people out by name I would get so angry with them, you know, I would get so like, just disappointed and frustrated. And I would just say, I can’t believe this. What a crap show you think I’m running here? You know, this isn’t a cherry Do you want to click Marie Osmond? Do you, you knock this crap off. And I mean, I really would get on people’s case hard and Cari with you. We were both very hard on rebels. And nowadays we’ve shifted Code Red, because neither of us have the grace for that anymore. We don’t have the grace to yell at people anymore. And some people 50% of people like that we do our Let’s celebrate Friday night calls. We call them calls but there’s not they’re not actual phone with a cord or anything. It’s a it’s a video, it’s all done on video. And it’s a less celebrate, we celebrate the top people that lost the most amount of weight. And we don’t scream at people anymore. We don’t Cari an eye to we just don’t have the grace and so 50% of the people, they love the fact that we’re not screaming at them, and 50% of the people need that screaming and so it bothers me that people need that screaming still, they need that aggressive. God dang it What is wrong with you? I can’t believe you mmm I’ve ever been. I don’t want to do that anymore. I’m 44. Now I’ve been doing Code Redfor a lot of years. So as Carrie, we just don’t want to do that with people anymore. And more importantly, why do you need that aggressive from Cariand Kristi, why do you need it? It is what I’m not always gonna be here to slap the donut out of your mouth.

 

Cari  15:27  

There’s a difference between Cristy making someone accountable. So they need to turn their weight each week. And we need to be held accountable for their weight and being like calling them out hardcore when they don’t. There’s a big difference. Let me go a little deeper. Let me go down this rabbit hole just a little bit longer, is the reason that we don’t in society steal and kill because we think that it’s against the law or as we don’t do it because we just know it’s not the right thing to do. So that’s what we’re talking about. We’re talking about intrinsic motive. You need to be willing to lose weight, not because you think the police are going to come after you. But because you don’t want to go to the grave early, because you want to play with your grandkids, because you don’t want to take shots six times a day. That needs to be your motivation. Not because Cristymight yell at you, not because you can’t zip up a size six, although that is a motivator.

 

Unknown Speaker  16:23  

True. I’m just saying

 

Cari  16:25  

the same point. There has to be something bigger than the SIS boom ra that keeps you on the path to taking your life back.

 

Cristy  16:36  

I am with Code Red corporate programs, Code Red corporate comes with a kickoff party with me in person. We’ve done a couple of zoom kickoff parties that the company chooses to do that, but Code Red corporate is a great program. And recently, a couple of days ago, I flew out to do a kickoff party and for a code corporate program that was getting ready to launch and so on I stood there in the front of the room and this lady said to me, she said, I’ve lost 55 pounds, and I’ve gained half the back and I just can’t seem to find the motivation anymore to want to lose the rest. And I said, in the past, I would have said that, dang it, you know, I can’t believe you. Are you kidding me? You did. And I would really like I would have gotten worked out my blood pressure would have gotten up. And I would have just really gotten on this case, I would never disrespect somebody, I would never call somebody names. I would never shame them. But I would really have gotten on our case hard in the past nowadays. I just kind of shrugged my shoulders and said, you know, Karen, it wasn’t a Karen but we call her. You know, Karen, you just don’t want it bad enough. Yes. When you get sick of being fat, and you get sick of what you see in the mirror, then you’ll do it. And she because she wanted me. She said what could you say to motivate me? I’m not gonna stand here and motivate like, What? You got to look in your mirror naked when Ain’t nobody around and say I don’t like the way I look. don’t like the way I feel because I’m having too much sugar. And I just kind of shrugged and just said, it’s just not your time. Nope.

 

Cari  18:07  

And that is why I hesitate. And Chrissy Oh, the Greek Cristy has taught me that when anyone emails us and it’s like,

 

Unknown Speaker  18:19  

do Code Red, or I want my big teenager Sally to do Code Red. I’m always like, red flags, red flags,

 

Unknown Speaker  18:28  

red flags, because

 

Cari  18:30  

your mama can’t want it more than you. Your wife can’t want it more than you and Cristy and I can’t want it more than you. Either. You want to lose weight, you want to stay on the straight and narrow. You want to take your life back or you don’t, but us yelling at you if you weren’t going to do it anyway. It’s not because guess what someday we’re not yelling. What keeps you from going and grabbing a dozen of Krispy Kreme Doughnuts.

 

Cristy  18:55  

What keeps you from doing that? You know, we’re not here. We’re playing the long game here guys. We’re not here to make your boyfriend’s ex girlfriend jealous? We’re not we’re just not doing that. This is why we like dealing with people that are a little bit more mature audience because they tend to be done with that area of their life You know? And oh, I just had Oh, come on Cristy. I just had a thought I just had a thought just lose. Just leave my mind. I mean, I No, no, no, that happens to me, my rebel for lifers, you know, I always think money motivated by money like, well, if I put out enough money or whatever, you know, but I noticed that money doesn’t motivate people, like I thought that they would like, I think to myself, you’re putting out $1,000 for a custom program, why would you not do it, and then even taking it further. My rebel for Life program is my VIP program. And these people are putting out four or five grand for this program. And yet they’re still not following the program. And that amazes me so it doesn’t see it has to be really, really, really deep. It has to hit you on a much deeper level in order to keep you going because I tell you that four grand doesn’t seem to hurt enough for some people.

 

Cari  19:57  

That’s why I always say when you’re so low, That you have to reach out to touch bottom. Then

 

Unknown Speaker  20:03  

come on to code read, we’re

 

Cari  20:05  

ready for you. You know, we’ll take anybody, we don’t care. I mean, anybody can join a challenge for any reason. Any motivation like we aren’t judging your motivation? What’s your motivation? Maybe it is to make your boyfriend’s ex girlfriends or whatever jealous. But the truth is, people that do the best have a motivation that goes deeper and usually they’ve tried everything Cristy and it hasn’t worked. And they’re just like, they have to draw that line in the sand where they say here and no more and the only difference. The only difference between the my 600 pound life people and Cristy is that Chrissy just draws her line in the sand and in different spots, guys, we’re all humans. We all have human experiences. We all want to eat food like that. Trust me. We all want to have somebody I want to lay in bed and have somebody bring Taco Bell to me. Yeah. How do I get that feel?

 

Unknown Speaker  21:03  

I mean, yeah, we all

 

Cari  21:04  

want. There’s a part of us that’s hedonistic that wants that. But the only difference is where you draw your line and where your motivation comes from. And I think Chrissy being able to see the reward down the road instead of the reward right in front of you.

 

Cristy  21:20  

You know, I just got done doing some, we’ve teamed up with Billy Jeffrey, who is the owner of 3g and CS Lewis and Moscow Pullman. And Billy has been a longtime supporter of Code Red, and we’ve been a longtime supporter of Billy. And we teamed up into some media here recently, and we just ping pong show well, together. We don’t even need to practice. It’s like Carrie, and I would just kind of get up above what I said. teasing, it’ll be the show if I don’t watch it. Right, right. Yeah. You just swap out Billy for Carrie. So I said, I go with Billy. At one point. I said, Billy, I said, I think it’s been so long since you have felt hopeless and desperate that you don’t understand what these people are coming from. You know, you’ve been lean, you’ve maintained this lean, beautiful physique for over 20 years, you forget what it feels like. And so and that’s the thing that makes Cariand I and Code Red all of our coaches and stuff so relatable of that we no forget what it feels like to be that low and have that with the sadness and the depression and the the feeling of hopelessness. And when you when you kind of remember that, then you can remember, hey, I don’t ever want to go back there. But man, when you’ve been super lean and good looking for all over a huge majority of years, you do you forget, but Cariand I, we don’t forget, we struggle with it more than you think. And we have to have that deep. Why that keeps us going.

 

Cari  22:37  

It’s interesting. Ain’t nobody coming to code red that’s doing a swimsuit model in that. They’re like, Hi, I’m like our niece, Ellie. She’s so cute. And she’s 120 pounds like Hi, I’m Ellie. I’m going to be your code red coach. No, you weren’t. You’re gorgeous. And you’ve never weighed over 125 so you’re out of here. No, we’re not hating on people that are beautiful. And then that is not it. I’m just saying it helps to have. I’ve had people write to me Cristy and be like, Oh, you understand what it’s like to have gastric surgery and fail. So for some reason my story resonates with them. Whereas for some people, I don’t resonate with them, but you do being the heavy athlete your story like, they’re like, oh, Cristy gets it. And if I were looking for weight loss program was only based on Cristy saying I was a heavy athlete, I would have been like, Well, I’m not an athlete now. And I’m heavy.

 

Cristy  23:33  

Right? It’s really important for us to provide the community with well rounded leadership right that really get it people have wide variety of ages and come from different walks of life that that can understand what you are going through which I think we have done so well with Code Red, we have provided so many different senior leaders and coaches that can totally get you but bottom line is when Ain’t nobody looking and you’re saying sitting alone and nobody’s there. What is keeping you from going into the kitchen of course we believe I’ve made just on a side note, you shouldn’t be having this in your kitchen because you will go in there and have a weak moment. But what’s keeping you from going into overeating on cashews? What’s keeping you on track? It has to be something so far beyond those fuzzy feelings.

 

Cari  24:20  

When you are in the bus, headed home from church camp, and the Kumbaya eyes have quieted down and everyone has their earphones in and listen to cassette tapes, okay, that was

 

Unknown Speaker  24:31  

just my church camp.

 

Cari  24:34  

And the lights are dark and it’s kind of cold on the bus and you’re curled up in your sleeping bag. Like there’s got to be something that keeps you moving forward. And that’s what we mean today. It’s a choice. It’s not a feeling guys, it might start with a feeling and that’s fine. But from there on out, it’s got to be a choice. Many times I’ve gone to bed, looking at my husband like this they can love is a choice. Love is a choice. I might choose to sleep When the spare bed, no, but I’m just saying is is, you know, love is a choice. It’s not about how I feel in that moment. If I’m frustrated with him or he’s frustrated with me equally, it’s got to be a choice when you head home from that camp experience.

 

Cristy  25:13  

You know, Joyce Meyer says, it’s so easy to serve God when we’re all in this dome in this big auditorium. And everybody 50,000 people around you, everybody’s doing praise and worship, and everybody’s praising God, and everybody’s nice and everybody, but can you continue serving God and go home and when when nothing got done, and the dishes are stacked up a wreck, you know, then you know, and I will say also on the spouse know, you know, my husband is 17 years older than me. And the years go by, and you know, he’s he’s getting older and I think he, of course, I think he’s handsome and I love him to death and I respect him and love him more every year. I really actually do love him more than when I first met him. But

 

Unknown Speaker  25:55  

as the age starts showing on all of us, you know,

 

Cristy  25:57  

as the age starts showing up on your spouse, You know, you got to have something deeper because you know, the your wedding photos, they don’t look like your wedding photos, they don’t look like when you just came out of the military or whatever. And that you need to have something solid and real and deep to keep you connected to your spouse. Because, you know, when they start to maybe maybe put on a little bit of weight in their midsection, or maybe they start to show wrinkles and they start to slow down a little bit, and they couldn’t do what they used to be able to do. Your love has got to be there and solid and strong and deep. And you don’t you don’t just take off and say, Well, I’m going to cheat on you now and go find a younger dude, because you’re starting to show signs of aging, you know, and that it can apply to so many areas of our lives.

 

Cari  26:38  

I love miles more than I did 10 years ago, just so you know, I got to know him. I think he’s great. But I do think that something has to be there. There has to be something of substance. Because the joke was, you know, well it’s you know, the church joke was, are you going to be like an orange when you get squeezed you can see what comes out then you know what you’re Filled with, well guess what guys on weight loss, oh, God bless, you’re going to get squeezed as you have blessed you’re going to get squeezed and it’s easy to drink your water when your Code Redlive And ain’t nobody drinking nothing else. But when you go out to lunch with friends, your orange is going to get squeezed. So make sure it’s filled up with code read. So when it squeezes what’s come out is just, I got my water. I’m good. Thank you. I’m good. Thank you.

 

Cristy  27:26  

Yeah, I’m totally fine. You know, I’m not sorry, I don’t need to do the Margarita, isn’t it taco Tuesdays and stuff. It is. It’s hard to stay strong. And that’s why we do want you to surround yourself with like minded people and to spend a little bit less time with people that don’t live the kind of lifestyle you live because you will find it more difficult to stay on the straight and narrow when you’re surrounded by a bunch of people that maybe have your old life. I know that if you’re in a I don’t think you’re allowed to even go back to those old places, the old bars and the old, the old groups in your old people that you used to hang out with I mean, you’re you’re asking for trouble.

 

Cari  28:02  

Yeah, it was funny Cristy, I was getting ready to get on the same thread. There is a clothing line that I like, I will not mention it. You introduced me to it. And they asked me to join their Facebook group. And it is all women who are struggling with their weight, lifting really heavy weights. Now, I completely respect them. I think it’s fine that they’re, I mean, I don’t even have a problem with their weight. I don’t care about any of that. But that’s not where I’m headed with my journey. That’s not where I’m headed. And so I was like, Oh, this feels and I completely respect them. So please don’t write me don’t write below this on YouTube. Gary does a respect I do. It just is not where I’m heading. I need to be like, I think Cristy she moved to Kentucky But beyond that, beyond that, is I need to be around people who are heading the direction I’m heading. JJ virgin says if you want to be healthy, get yourself a really healthy friend who’s that much healthier than you?

 

Cristy  28:57  

Yeah,

 

Cari  28:58  

because it levels up Your game and it’s the same thing. When you’re coming home from Camp Meeting, you got to find someone who will pray with you every day. When you’re doing code read, you got to find somebody that texts you and says, Hey, Betty, how much water Have you had today? And that is what will keep you that was what will keep you more of a choice. If you have a friend that all they do is complain about their husband and how much they hate their husband, and you want to stay married. You might not want to friend like that. I’m just saying,

 

Cristy  29:26  

Yeah, it’s really pouring into the wrong area of your life. Like I just I just mentioned this to somebody. I said, you and I just talked about this. Yeah, I said, I’m really trying to stay on this path. And the messages I was getting from this version, mate. Were making me take a different path and I don’t want I need to stay on this path. I gotta surround myself with people who are going to help me stay on this path and guys, it needs to be about it’s got to be more of a choice every day than a feeling you can’t just rely on the feelings the feelings will come and go. That is an unstable Foundation, the foundation Is your choice and recommitting every day sometimes you have to recommit to your marriage to recommit to Christ you have to recommit to your health. With the recommit to parenting we have to recommit to different areas of life that we want to do well in. Amen.

 

Cari  30:12  

I couldn’t agree more. I love it. It is not about the way you feel. It is a choice you make and I think if we can just kind of get that through our head and you know that you’re going to have to do the grind and make those choices every day that it makes the journey easier Cristy,

 

Cristy  30:28  

another choice I make curious I choose Oh, my blue light blocking glasses during the day. When I find that I am going to be on my devices a lot like right now I’m in front of a big computer and I have lights shining on me and I’ve got surrounded with blue light and so I noticed that that causes a lot of eye strain. So during the day I wear my day, wear Swamis and during the night I wear the ones that Cari has on the night wear Swamis and you need to get yourself a pair of blue light blocking glasses by going to Swanwick sleep calm and using the code rebel for 15% off So this has got to be a staple.

 

Cari  31:01  

Oh, it’s pretty much it’s not even debated guys. It’s like should we have vitamin D guys? Like, it’s so obvious blue light is harmful. We’ve proven this. It’s it’s kind of like, do you take a shower every day? Yeah, you’d need to take a shower. You need to have your blue light blocking glasses on.

 

Cristy  31:19  

This is not controversial.

 

Cari  31:20  

Yeah, it’s a great invest. This is not hippity dippity or woo woo, we love Swanwick invest in your health today. Invest in a pair of glasses and we give you some money off. So

 

Cristy  31:29  

we love that quite a bit. And so this is definitely a daily choice. I keep these by my bed and then I can write here on my desk, and Kerry’s got a bucket of them like a little a little chicken that holds him or something. It’s got a little It’s so cute. Yeah, there it is. Okay, there it is. And she keeps all our glasses there. We hope you enjoyed this episode of rebel weight loss in lifestyle where we talked about making it a choice, not just going off your feelings and and this again, applies to every single area. of our life that we want to do well in?

 

Cari  32:02  

Yes, it does. And And again, if we can just take these little hints and tips that Cristy And I give you and apply them in some small way, you will see big rewards in the end.

 

Cristy  32:13  

Yeah, you really will. Thanks for joining us. And guys, we’ll see you on the next episode. Thank you everybody.

 

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