62: Be BOLD In Your MESSAGE!

What Is This Episode About…

In this episode, Cristy and Cari talk about being bold. Whatever you believe, no matter what your opinion is, take a stand and be BOLD in your message! It’s better to have a backbone and fight for what you believe than to crumble, shrink, and conform to what society thinks you should be.

You should always speak your word with great boldness, even though boldness is polarizing and bold people are not popular. Believe in something and stand for it. Be passionate about it and speak about it with boldness.

There is often a misconception that bold people are disrespectful. Nothing can be further from the truth. Speaking your mind and doing it with conviction rubs some people the wrong way but it is not disrespectful. You can disagree with somebody and do it respectfully.

Life’s experiences create and solidify our boldness. When you go through trials and tribulations, like Cristy and Cari you become bold and do not fear to speak your word. However, speaking your word with boldness doesn’t mean you spew out stupid and obnoxious things. You have to do your research to understand what you are talking about so that people can listen to you.

Key Takeaways

Speaking with boldness may make a lot of people unhappy but you should still do it (02:32)
Why you should never hide your opinions even when they might not be popular (09:20)
Our boldness is created and solidified by the experience we go through in life (12:30)
Doing research on what you believe in to avoid saying stupid, obnoxious things (14:05)
Being authentic amidst the pressures of social media and all the fakeness that is around (25:44)
Being secure in yourself, so that all the hate you get after voicing your opinion doesn’t affect you (30:07)
Being like the Proverbs 31 woman who is absolutely incredible (31:30)

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When Was It Released…

This episode was released May 27, 2020

Episode Transcript…

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Cari 0:00

If you don’t stand for something, you’re going to fall for anything. You’re going to be like that leaf on the river. And when your life is over, you’re going to look back. And it’s just gonna be like, wow, it’s not gonna be like, What food do we eat? Where do we eat at Disneyland? Or, you know, I mean, how many cars that I have in the driveway? It’s going to be what did I believe in? What did I stand for in my life? What did I have passionate about?

Intro 0:27

I’m Cristy Code Red and you’re listening to rebel weight loss and lifestyle, where we believe food pulls the power to heal or poison, and we believe our society has been misled regarding proper nutrition and weight loss. You’re in the right place if you’re looking for some straight-up truth, because I’m here to shed light on the lies and brainwashing that has taken place over the past five decades. Thanks so much for listening.

Cristy 0:53

Welcome back to rebel weight loss in lifestyle. I am Cristy Code Red your host, author, entrepreneur. retired professional boxer and I am joined by Carrie Thompson. It’s always a great day when Carrie gets to join me for podcasting.

Cari 1:08

It’s a great day for me. Because even though I’m podcasting, the emails

Unknown Speaker 1:12

keep coming in Ding, ding.

Cari 1:17

I’m like, Oh, no, I’m podcasting. Do I have an assistant that’ll take care of those emails? But No, I don’t.

Cristy 1:22

It’s always distracting when I watch your eyes drop down to whatever you’re looking at. Like.

Cari 1:29

I opened up a new screen. I was trying to get our screen open for our podcast because we’re going to use some stuff and instead of having it on my phone, so I have it already. So I’m good to go now.

Cristy 1:39

Guys, we are so happy that you’re joining us. We love coming to you via podcasts. We really do. This is like our favorite thing to do Carrie with me. And it’s always a fun time. And this actually this subject was Carrie thought it up. And I loved it because it’s right up my alley for a lot of different reasons, but we’re talking about whatever your messages are. In your message,

Cari 2:01

be bold in your message. And of course, I have to start with the Scripture, guys. I have to start with a word of the Lord. And again, we don’t care where you get your inspiration from. But since we were raised, you know, Christians, we, of course, are familiar with the Bible. So I’m going to use the Bible but Acts 4:29 says, Now, Lord, consider their threats. and enable your servants to speak your word, with great boldness, folks, whatever your cause, whatever you’re passionate about, whatever you believe in, make sure that you’re speaking your word with great boldness and this talk may not make a lot of people happy Christy.

Cristy 2:42

I’m attracted to bold people, and I’m also turned off by wishy-washy people with no backbone.

Cari 2:47

Oh, me too. I always say the word, Meili. I don’t know that’s not even the right word. But it reminds me of those of you who can’t see my face. I’m going nearly I don’t know what I don’t even know what I should probably look it up what is nearly Amelie mouth Me, me. I don’t know what I believe. Yeah, raise me nuts. And just the way this is the analogy I use with Christine when we were talking about this topic and how it affects someone’s life. It’s not that you turn into a Jesus saves poster screaming at people on the corner chasing down people. That’s not it at all. But if you think of your life, your years as a river as time as a river, and you have a certain amount of river distance, you’re going to flow and then that’s it, and you are the leaf and you float down the river of life. I know, I know, it’s a little bit hippie-dippie, but you float down the river of life. And if you don’t have a purpose, if you don’t have a plan, if you don’t have passion for something, you just become this leaf. And wherever the water pulls you you go. So maybe you get caught up in this little Eddy And you swirl for five years, or you get caught on a rock and you can’t get past it a bad relationship. Hello, you know, not getting your education not deciding what you want to do. And then all of a sudden you come to the end of your life you come to the end of your river, and what have you stood for? What have you believed in? What were you bold about? And that’s really what we’re trying to talk about today living with intentionality and boldness.

Cristy 4:26

I have very big opinions, and I’m a bold person clearly. And when I get bold and I make bold statements on social media, Kerry’s got to clean up the mess of whatever I have created. Now I hold full pictures to our boot pictures, right, right. The one that she’s talking about, but when I answer my own DMS on Instagram, and I’ll get plenty of hate messages, it’s awfully easy for someone to get very mouthy when they’re standing behind the screen of a phone Then and nobody can say that to my face, but boy, they’ll say anything if it means that I don’t even know them or where they live or anything, but and it’s always amazing to me what people so I get my fair share of hate. And it always, it always comes the biggest hate messages come both through my Instagram through my Facebook and through our helpdesk to Carrie where she has to filter them and take care of them when I make bold statements.

Cari 5:24

And do you think when we were talking about this, I said that boldness is polarizing? So if you imagine, you know if you imagine you have sand on either side of a filter, and you’re shaking it through some sand up here, some sand down here, it goes to either side, you know, magnet, magnetic poles, whatever, it polarizes, there’s no more just clump of opinions, it polarizes opinions. That is why people that are bold, are generally not popular, aka john the baptist, aka Martin Luther King, aka you know all Those kinds of people that stood up for what they believed in, we recently had a at the time of this recording, we recently had a, again not to talk about political things. But this is an example of a naval commander of a ship. They call them captains of a ship different than an army captain. And he wrote a letter to his superiors and it leaked out to the media. And he was saying, hey, I need to have this happen for my from not soldiers, whatever they are, and maybe you can tell him why. Yeah, seamen, whenever they come. Anyway, my people on the boat I need to say have happened. He was very bold. He got fired from his job, but that is polarizing. It is a polarizing topic, right or wrong, left or right. You’re going to put yourself on one side or the other of a topic when you become bold about something you believe in.

Cristy 6:48

And when you do make bold, take a bold stand against something not against or stand for something, or you do have a bold opinion or an outlook on something and you take a stand. You don’t have to be this respectful to other people, right? There’s this guy that I follow online. His name is Paul Saladino. He’s a medical doctor. I like him a lot. He was vegan. And he completely switched around his life. And now he is on a carnivore lifestyle where he only eats animal protein. And that switch into carnivore has healed him and all that stuff. But what I love the most about Paul Saladino is that when he has guests on his podcast that do not agree with him, and he knows he’s bringing them on the show, to have a debate. He is the most respectful kind person ever. He gives them respect they do this debate, I wouldn’t even call it an argument. It’s so kind. They don’t call each other names. They’re not mean to each other. He’s so very kind too and they part ways you know, they agree to disagree or they go ahead and have their debate but never wants to they put each other down.

Cari 7:52

Right. And Christy, that’s a gift because that is really hard to do. It seems like today in society that we can and this is not good. Quite on topic, but we can’t disagree with people and stay friends. You know, I have a neighbor. I don’t agree with some things that she stands in for, from an ethical maybe standard point of view, a political point of view. But I believe in her being so bold about it, that I recently was helping her with this. She went not helping her with the issue, but she wanted to go legislate in our Kentucky legislation. So she went down there she made her voice heard. She helped lobby she showed up wearing the color dress of her cause. She stood there she made her heart and her opinion known. She supported I mean, she showed up and what she was legislating for actually did pass. I mean, I even went and picked up her kid at school and better and then send her back home. You know what I mean? But that’s not the point. The point is that I respected her boldness I respected that she stood for something. What is it Chrissie? If you don’t stand for something, you’re going to fall for anything. You’re going to be like that leaf The river. And when your life is over, you’re gonna look back. And it’s just gonna be like, wow, it’s not gonna be like, What food do we eat? Where do we eat at Disneyland? Or, you know, I mean, how many cars that I have in the driveway? It’s going to be what did I believe in? What did I stand for in my life? What did I have passionate about?

Cristy 9:20

And I think that social media makes it so difficult. When you do take a stand on an issue, and you step out and you make your opinion known and respectfully or not, it’s not the popular choice. In a lot of cases, you take a woman who you get people that are chasing the likes, and so you get a girl who actually has a PhD and Astro physiology, but that’s not what gets her the most likes. What gets her the most likes, is showing pictures of her boobs. So what does she do? She shows pictures of her boobs to get the most likes, instead of actually taking a stand on something in her field and what she really is interested in because that that’s not nearly as interesting as I guess somebody boobs, and so we end up we end up hiding Our true opinions because it’s not the most popular and I don’t want somebody to live like that.

Cari 10:05

No, I don’t either. What happened to you recently? Christy, you did an interview? I love how you describe this.

Cristy 10:10

Yes, I did an interview. Yeah. Thank you for reminding me that I did an interview. I do a lot of interviews. I do a lot of podcasts with different guests. And I’m so fortunate to get on lots of different shows. And the interviewer asked me, he said, Christie, I know that you probably get this controversial question. I’d like to know how you handle it. And I said, Yes, I do get that question. And this is what I say. And I told him, and he said, Wow, he goes, if only I could be so bold when I answer and I thought, wow. And that was that was really I think that’s what started this whole idea. I told Carrie that conversation she said, Sis, this is something we need to talk about.

Cari 10:44

I think so too. Okay, ready? Here’s our next scripture Christie Ephesians 312 Second Corinthians 312. If you have a minute, get your Bibles and

Unknown Speaker 10:53

just teasing

Cari 10:55

them therefore since we have such a hope we are variable If you have a hope in your life, I don’t care what you believe in. I don’t care if you want to have hope that you’re going to have the best girl scout troop in the Pacific Northwest. I don’t care if your hope is the fact that you want to bring your religion and your belief system to people that don’t know it. If your hope is to stand at the bedside of people that are dying in the ICU, and hold their hands as they pass, and there’s nothing you can do, but just be present, whatever your passion is, whatever your hope is such a hope. We are very bold, be bold in what you believe. And just when Chris and I are talking about this, I have the theory guys, that boldness we were raised to know what we believe that will be fair krysia like we were raised, you know what you believe in? You know why you believe it. So we were never raised to be like kneeling. I gotta use that word again. Really, really? We were never raised to be like, well, you girls you don’t say what you think. You girls Keep your mouth shut. Never. You know we were allowed to be respectful and disagree you that’s fair.

Cristy 12:06

I know I don’t agree with you. I think we were more raised to you get what you get you don’t throw a fit and you don’t talk back and you would just accept things as they are.

Cari 12:15

Yeah, that part but we were encouraged to think the way we wanted to

Cristy 12:19

Sure. Sure. Yes.

Unknown Speaker 12:21

We’re encouraged to be free thinkers. Yes. And oh, man. We’re sorry. No, it’s okay. Free. Kids up.

Unknown Speaker 12:29

Oh, it wasn’t

Cari 12:30

really Oh, I know. Sorry about that. Everybody. Oh, good. I’m glad you think that it is but our boldness because Christina are both bold people. I believe that our boldness has been born of pain. Born of trial, born of tribulation, born of fire, all those liberal Spencer books. Ha ha ha just teasing. Okay, that’s enough. That sounds like a trilogy. Oh, have you read Board of pain board and fire board? Right. But I do believe that our boldness has been Because of what we’ve gone through in life, there’s no one that I have met that has been through more more times getting kicked in the teeth than Christie. And I do believe that her boldness has become has been created and been harnessed and been solidified. Because of those trials and tribulations. It’s just like being in a bad relationship. Who can talk about there? There comes a point Christie was in a physically abusive relationship. I’ve been in emotionally abusive relationships. And there comes a point where you just say, Okay, that’s it. Now for some people that’s being in the ER, or that’s being in the ICU on life support. For some people, it’s the first time they hit you. And again, this is not a conversation about that. But we all have that point. And when you put your foot down and you say no more, there’s something that starts to build in your spirit. You know what I mean? Oh, yes, this, I am worth more than this. I am more important than this kind of treatment. And I think that’s where boldness comes from. I do it’s, it’s through the hard crap Christie that we start to become more bold than what we believe.

Cristy 14:05

Yeah, I couldn’t agree more, I think you hit the nail on the head. And if you are going to take a stand on an issue, and you are going to put your foot down and draw the line in the sand and say Nope, this is what I believe. Do your research on what you believe. Be sure that you are educated that you’re just not spouting off idiot things and being stupid about it and just going around being obnoxious, crazy lunatic and nobody gonna listen to you then at least do your research. If you like Carrie, I like when you talk about vaccinations. And we’re not going to get into that debate here. We’re not here to we’re not going to do that with you. But if you say I’m not vaccinating my kid, because Jenny McCarthy said not to, is that really a good basis for your opinion? So

Cari 14:42

like I like I was telling you and you’ve heard this story before Christie but when I was in nursing school, I had to do a paper on an opinion at different from mine. Of course, I was very young guys I had I wasn’t even a nurse so I was a I wasn’t even a full nurse. I was a new

Cristy 14:56

you weren’t our I was a wannabe

Cari 15:00

I met with a woman who was totally against anything traditional, traditional medicine, any kind of vaccination, any kind of exposure, any kind of, you know, any kind of being around traditional medicine at all, which always made me wonder, Well, what if your kid lost the leg? Like why would you do that and maybe you will go to the ER. And I don’t know, I didn’t ask her. But I was shocked at first that she even agreed to talk to me because you have to realize what I was setting as a nurse, especially back in that day was we didn’t talk a lot about alternative therapies. We didn’t talk a lot about holistic medicine and natural Pathak medicine. We just talked about what worked and what medical doctors did and what the nurses role was. So I’m a little shocked that she talked to me, really interesting gal completely off grid, raised her kids completely off grid. And she talked to me on the phone, and it was the most fascinating thing I’ve ever experienced. And you know what I love the best about her Chrissy it wasn’t like oh antivax Wasn’t antivax cuz I hear there’s bad things in them. Oh my gosh, like she actually had what she believed to be research, papers, data, her own personal experiences her friends experiences and even though I did not agree even a little bit with what she was talking about, I respected this woman and I carry her with me 20 whatever years later, and I carry her opinion in her heart Christy when I would talk to patients now that believe that way, it gave me such a respect for somebody who believes what they believe. And again, they know why they believe it for God’s sakes know why you believe what you believe that was. That was the whole reason I’m telling that story. That is,

Cristy 16:42

that’s huge. And you know, with our kids, guys, our kids just parent, they parent what we say, our kids just parent what we say. And we raise little kids. I mean, you see him on Instagram, they’re like, you know, like, you know that the parents are voting certain way and then you got these little kids that barely know how to talk and they’re shouting the same person to Vote for and you’re like, Ah, you know, but I would encourage the parents listening to really foster an environment of being bold and taking a stand but encourage your child to do his or her research to understand the reason why they believe what they believe. And don’t stifle that, you know, carry your son, my nephew, Chase. When he came to me a couple of years ago, he was younger, he was a teenager. And he said, I have an idea for code read a business proposition for you. This is good. I love this kid. And it took a lot of guts to put together this business proposition for me and come to me and present it at risk of being laughed at or being of having a being scoffed at of having an eye roll in your face. He was nervous and he came to me is again, Christie. I want to talk to you about a business proposition. And it really impressed me but you know what? More than anything, I made sure that I did not react in a way that would hide as light under a bush. Oh, no. Like I did not want to snuff out that spirit. He had I made sure that I was at the creativity. I didn’t want to I didn’t want to snuff that out.

Cari 18:05

And I think that your response has even though the idea was like,

Unknown Speaker 18:14

well, Hmm, yeah, not a good idea. He

Cari 18:17

wouldn’t Christie says, I don’t know, even though the idea wasn’t the best idea. He was on the right track, and I love his entrepreneurial spirit and your response encouraged him. He just recently took a managerial position. And because he’s bold, he’s able to say, I’m concerned about these processes. Mama, can you help me figure this out? What do you do on Google Doc? How do you manage your employees? How do you make sure that everyone’s doing what they’re supposed to? And I was like, Oh, I know processes. And that’s just because of what I’ve learned from working for Code Red, and some ICU nursing. But the whole point was, he wasn’t like, Oh, well, okay. Well forget that. He is like, okay, on to bigger and better things and they just move forward. He wasn’t even it didn’t even catch off guard that you said no.

Cristy 19:02

Yeah. And but but I think that if I would have reacted harshly, that would have really knocked him down a few pegs. And I’m so glad and parents, I just want to encourage you to be very careful the way you react to your kids who are taking a bold stand on something, if they believe in gun control, and you do not, you know, instead of saying Little Johnny, I can’t believe you that he owns 42 guns, I can’t believe you would say that. That’s our Second Amendment rights. Maybe just stay calm and say okay, so tell me why you think this let’s talk about this right now. You’re grounded. And you know, and and let’s make sure that we don’t raise wishy washy kids just chasing the likes.

Cari 19:41

Right. And I see so much and the thing you brought up about the PhD student that was pretty that showing her it’s interesting to me because I do think that a lot of times people hide who they really are, because it’s not going to be a popular opinion. I like the way you said that. Okay, are you ready Chrissy the wicked Proverbs 28 one I’ve always loved this scripture, the wicked flee though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion. I love it, especially if you know you believe in it. And you know why you believe and again like Chrissy said, there is a time and a place. You don’t need to be up and down the aisles at Walmart with a Jesus saved sign again, not trying to knock the Jesus saves people but because I’m a Christian, I can just like I can talk about that because I was fat. I have a fat card. Let me show you. But I think that you don’t need to be Jesus says Can I have a loaf of bread? Jesus says I need some rice. I mean, you don’t have that there is a time and a place to say what you feel. I have a lot of tattoos. And I knew when I was getting them that Christie didn’t like them. But you know what i have because of life, because of my experiences with boldness, also usually comes a little bit thicker skin Christian, I’m just sharing, you’ll learn and so I didn’t care. I was like, I’m gonna get them. I liked them. But Chrissy wasn’t saying Well, I’ll tell you what I don’t like your time. She wouldn’t say that at all. She didn’t say anything unless I asked her directly Do you like this? So there’s no reason to go around just being a poopoo head constantly saying how you feel about everything? Well, you know, then you’re just a grumpy old, you know, man that sits on the corner and smoke cigarettes and drinks, you know, beer all day long. You don’t want to be that person.

Cristy 21:22

Right? We really want to encourage you to take a stand, be bold, whatever you believe, you know, back in the day, Carrie. Boy, I mean, I don’t know exactly when remember when Ellen DeGeneres came out as gay. And that was, was that 20 years ago? I mean, a long time. 25 years ago, maybe 30? I’m not sure I remember that specific episode, where it all came out. But back in the day, gay people were discriminated against beaten, harassed, abused, killed, killed. Yeah, I mean, can you imagine to me to not be able to live my truth I cannot imagine. I’m so glad. We’re so more We’re so much more inclusive in today’s society that we don’t treat people like that just because they’re different than us. We don’t discriminate maybe they you know, actually my gay followers are probably gonna say oh no Chrissy that goes on more than you think and maybe I’m wrong about that does

Cari 22:14

it against being a middle aged white woman?

Cristy 22:16

Oh there there you go yeah everybody gets

Cari 22:18

something i’m not i’m not minimizing the discrimination in the fight that LGBT has been through because it’s awful it is awful like you said Chrissy not to live your truth whether pastor Joe or Betty, you know Betty with whatever on down the road like whether you don’t agree, can you imagine not being able to live your truth Christy? That’d be like us being like, Christie, you eat processed foods. You don’t tell people the truth about eating?

Cristy 22:43

Right? No, right and but it just would be such a prison to be gay and not being able to live openly as a gay person that would be awful to me. And years go by and not be able to just be who I really feel like I am who I really am. I can’t think of a bigger president. I really Can’t and I’m so glad that that is not happening nowadays that people can live the way they want. And they can live their truth and you may not agree with their truth but my gosh, they’re being bold with their message. They’re taking a stand for something I respect the heck out of that if it’s done in a respectful way. Which brings

Unknown Speaker 23:15

us to joy exotic.

Cristy 23:20

Hey, you know, I had to say it. Timing this recording. Of course, Joe exotic. His biggest thing on the internet

Cari 23:26

Tiger King is the biggest thing out there, y’all. I mean, you’d be listening to this 10 years from now and be like, what are those girls talking about? Well google it if they’re still a Google or Google

Unknown Speaker 23:35

remember that on time, machine

Cari 23:38

lougle. So Google it and find out guys, and if you haven’t heard from it, you’re just living under a rock. But Joe exotic is a tiger zoo keeper. He has a zoo. And you know, right or wrong. Whether you agree with Joe or not, whether you think he’s crazy. The tattoos, the multiple husbands the crazy stuff he did. I mean, you know plotting to kill people. I will say that I have a certain amount of respect for him that he absolutely never once varied from what he believed in. Is he crazy? Absolutely. I mean, he is pretty out there. But I gotta tell you, Chrissy, I respect that he never strayed from his path and what he believed in

Cristy 24:22

his truth he never strayed from his truth was it crazy? Yeah, we did none of us agree with it. No, none of us agreed with him we should have done it No but God the guide I still I respect him more than I respect some middle aged stay at home mom that won’t take a stand on anything. doesn’t say anything does it ever have an opinion doesn’t talk back to her husband never correct your kids like just his nature on everything. I can’t I take give me joy exotic any day over that light lady.

Unknown Speaker 24:49

And you know what the

Cristy 24:50

other thing I liked about him, there’s

Cari 24:52

he’s an interesting dude. We’ll probably get more mail about this. And we’ll the topic that we’re talking about on the Joe exotic episode. But anyway, One thing I did like about him is that he did not hide who he really was. You know, he did have two husbands at one time. So he was into plural marriages, you know, he had the tattoos, and he never hit it. He would say I’m a gay cowboy, Tiger wrestler from Florida, Louisiana. And he didn’t hide that. I appreciate that. Even a very odd sense of his truth. He lived his truth. And I gotta tell you, that’s what endears him to people. Christie, that we’re all kind of like, oh, Joe, are you in jail? Oh, you didn’t mean to kill. You weren’t really gonna kill Carol basket. I mean, you know, but we kind of, sort of want to root for him because he’s authentic, or his version of authentic.

Cristy 25:44

And we’re in this society. If you scroll through Instagram, in social media platforms, you just see everything is photoshopped, filtered, and it’s fake. And I think we’re all grasping so hard for things that are true. I mean, right now, the Those of you watching on YouTube I am not wearing any makeup and I like to on purpose do things in my Mohawk is not fixed and I want you on purpose do things to where I don’t I don’t want to put out this whole perfect white background with Christy’s hair and makeup perfect and a perfect dress and you don’t see any cellulite or you don’t see any fat because I’m positioned perfect and light is perfect. That is not how real life is I want to be authentic because part of me wants to live my life is real is Joe exotic lived it and so I know that sounds a little strange, but I want to be that real and authentic and I want to be bold in my message. I want to be respectful and kind to people who disagree or with me or who that I don’t agree with but my gosh I want to live my truth I don’t want to regret one moment in my life.

Cari 26:43

Amen. I love that Chrissy there. You and I talked about this before but there’s a gal I follow on Instagram and I followed her through one of our employees was following her and I thought well what’s she about? And she’s very popular. I just you know, I’m I’m not cool anymore guys. I’m not cool anymore. But anyway She, evidently back in the day long time ago, was followed because of weight loss and keeping yourself very thin. And she talks about I picked this up after kind of following her for a while. She’s gorgeous. And she talks about those being her eating disorder days, back when she had an eating disorder. Now, she is a normal weight. But is her body perfect? No, like she’s got the stretch marks. She’s got some dimpling in her thighs, like I do, too. You know what I mean? It’s what a woman really looks like and we’re not talking like being 350 and being like, I’m healthy. We’re not talking about that. I’m just talking about normal shape person. Okay. So anyway, someone wrote to her recently, and I was so proud of the way she handled this tells you what a classy person she is. They said I used to follow you for weight loss. And now I see that you’ve lost control of the reins. And it was a picture of her in her underwear. And you can see clearly on the back of her thighs, the cellulite, a couple of stretch marks. I mean, you know, her body doesn’t look that much different than mine. I’ll be honest, you know, except for she’s ridiculously beautiful, no makeup, full makeup, everything. And she’s just really one of those beautiful people that wake up looking beautiful. And she said, What is this person talking about? And they flipped to the next picture. And it was someone holding like horse reins. And it said what other people think. And then it said, what society expects, oh, I’ve lost control of those. Because I’m 10 pounds heavier or a little bit heavier. You’re saying that I am not conforming to your expectations of me. So when we don’t conform to the expectations that people have of us, that’s where we get in trouble. I had somebody I showed a picture of me holding one of my Gosling. And somebody wrote on there you have a beautiful life, Carrie, and I wrote, I have a beautiful life. Now, but for so many years, I was like this gal on Instagram, trying to live the life that people thought I should live and do the things that people thought I should live well now I have a beautiful life because I’ve created that. I have a Bolden what I believe, and I don’t have to succumb to the expectations of society. And I think that’s so profound I love I respected this woman just like my respect went way up. I was like, she’s not perfect. She’s not afraid to show it. You’re a lot the same way Chris, you’ve shown pictures like hey, this is perfect. But look, if I go like this same exact person, I appreciate that. So I think part of being bold, I do have a point in all this part of being bold, is stopping caring so much what people think about you. Now do you have to be like me middle fingers up if everybody will? No, you don’t have to be like that. You don’t have to be gross and rude about it. But you have to stop caring so much about people and who is people anyway, by the way?

Unknown Speaker 29:49

Who are these people?

Cari 29:51

You don’t I mean, what they think we have to stop that Christie, and that’s what I like about you. Same idea. You aren’t wearing the makeup you don’t have your Mohawk done. Some days you’re in full on everything. You’re just as beautiful either way, you don’t care what people think.

Cristy 30:07

Yeah, and I, I’m my idea, thank you for saying that my idea of a personal hell would be to try to conform with what society because I can promise you right now take a stand, take a stand on something, take a stand, draw a line in the sand, and have an opinion on something and voice that opinion, you will get the hate. And if unless you can handle that you got it, you have to be secure in yourself and you have to be like, that’s all right. People are not gonna agree with you. It doesn’t matter. I’ve had long blonde hair, I’ve had long brown hair, I’ve had every kind of hair and every kind of body shape you can imagine. And across the board, I’ve had haters and every single look, you might as well you might as well be true to yourself and die knowing that you know it go through your life and knowing that hey, I was at least true to my own self. Then try to try and conform with other men that that is a that would be my personal hell is trying to conform to what other people think I should be.

Cari 30:58

It’s funny Christy because you mentioned the hair and I laugh because I’ll never forget, as Code Red has grown in the number of people that follow me personally on the internet on it, that has grown as well. And so it’s funny. Someone said to me because I have the most uninteresting hair in the world. It’s just hair. I don’t. I’m the antithesis of Christie as far as that goes, but somebody was like, so you’ve had that hair saw a long time? What are you going to do with it? Well, I’m gonna do what I’m doing now. Thanks. So even the most uninteresting hair

Cristy 31:26

out there still gets the hate

Unknown Speaker 31:29

something about it.

Cristy 31:30

Someone will always say something and someone will always disagree. There’s absolutely no way you’re gonna be able to make everybody happy. So you might as well take a stand. You might as well have a backbone on something. You might as well stand on your own two feet and hold your head high. And be bold in your message just like the Proverbs 31 woman carry. That woman is amazing. You guys go to your Bibles and turn to Proverbs 31 and read about that chick. Are you kidding me? That woman is absolutely incredible. She’s pulled. She’s bald people. You know feminists want to say Well, I’ll tell you what they want to discuss. The proverbs 31 woman, that woman was strong she worked out. I like to believe it she digs it says her arms are strong. Okay, I’m gonna believe that she worked out she kept her body strong. She considers the field and she bought it like she considers to feel that she buys it. She goes into the marketplace she negotiates. Like she is incredible. That is a bold woman, and I am a Robert 31 working woman in progress like I’m I’m working towards being like her, but I am her and you are her too. But don’t be a pushover. Be bold in your message.

Unknown Speaker 32:32

Someone 38 three says when I called you we answered me, you greatly emboldened me,

Unknown Speaker 32:39

greatly emboldened me.

Cari 32:41

So whatever you believe in, call, answer answer the call and be emboldened in what you believe. Don’t be like the leaf floating down the river. Just every him every Ha. every whim of somebody and never know this and never know that don’t you have an opinion on anything? Don’t get me I’ve met people like that Christy you have to where do you want to eat? I don’t know, wherever you want to eat if you want whatever you want, I met a guy I’m sorry I didn’t meet a person. I listened to the podcast and I feel like I know them personally. And she was talking about how she was raised to She was raised in a different country. And she was raised to made be made to feel that she should always shrink to make space for other people. How sad is that? That you don’t

Unknown Speaker 33:29

feel like you can be who you want

Cari 33:30

because you should and I do believe in the Bible says be an honor preferring one another. I do believe we should honor and prefer and put people before ourselves. Like Be kind. Sure Christy, you went ahead or Christine let me get your coffee for you. Or can you know can I get a blanket for you? I mean, that’s what I’m talking about. I’m

Unknown Speaker 33:46

gonna be walked on. You’re not

Unknown Speaker 33:48

talking I don’t get walked on. And I’m talking about can you imagine being taught by your family that you shrink so others can come forward waste of just makes me so when I heard that I I actually have my headphones on I went, like, Oh my gosh,

Unknown Speaker 34:04

wow.

Cari 34:05

Oh, it broke my heart,

Cristy 34:06

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Cari 34:57

Thank you and thank you for being the bold woman One that you are that so many other women can follow in your footsteps. I love that about you. I think that’s

Cristy 35:06

super important. What a compliment. Thank you so much. You guys join us on our next episode of rebel weight loss and lifestyle. We will see you guys in our monthly rolling challenges. Have a good day.

Intro 35:18

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