So you feel like giving up.
Maybe you’re sick of the struggle, sick of trying, sick of inner conflict, and most of all, sick of caring.
I get it. Caring is hard. Giving a crap and not seeing any results to show for it is draining.
You just wanna know, “WHEN will this feel easier? It is ALWAYS gonna feel like an exhausting battle?”
When you reach that point, giving up instead of giving a crap often FEELS easier.
On Code Red, we call that taking a break from caring. It might be for one meal, or it might be for a LOT longer.
The thing is, even though taking a break from caring FEELS easier, it’s not.
For one thing, the longer your “break,” the harder it is to come back.
It’s not IMPOSSIBLE to come back. It just gets harder and harder.
If you get ticked off enough, you may come roaring back and do better than you ever have. I’ve definitely seen that, though it’s not the norm (I wish it was!).
The people who succeed after taking breaks from caring almost always, without fail, reconnect with the community (or never lost connection), and use that to help fuel their drive…
Because if you could do it “ALL on your own,” you already would be.
Even I’ve benefitted from coaches who knew more than I did and could share a little of what sometimes felt like a “burden.”
For another thing, when you do take that break, well, most people make unfortunate choices that set them back.
It’s like climbing a mountain. If you you took a break by just pausing where you are on your climb, that’s one thing.
But what most people do is backslide all the way down to the bottom. Then they have ALL that ground to make up, which feels so intimidating, it’s hard to get started again.
Finally, when you make choices that set you back, it both stirs up more inner conflict (eventually, if not at first), AND leads to you feeling betrayed by, and disappointed in, yourself.
THAT is, in my experience, the hardest part of all, because the more you do it, the less you trust yourself.
When you don’t trust yourself to see things through, you end up in this vicious cycle of never getting what you’re going for, and feeling more and more like a helpless victim with zero power to change your circumstances.
If that’s how you’re feeling, it does NOT have to stay that way.
You can start to change it, by taking steps to honor your own word.
It can be as simple as getting all your water in each day. Start with that until it’s part of your routine, then add to it.
The bottom line is that even though giving up FEELS easier, what it costs you is a LOT harder than finding a way forward even when you feel like quitting.
If you’re at the end of your rope, find help. Find support and community.
Support makes your mental “rope” longer and stronger, so you don’t hit the end as soon; and if you do, there are people to help you come back.
Connection with others on the same journey takes some of the burden. It’s comforting to know you’re not alone, and inspiring to be around. For connection to THE best community (including opportunities to get your questions answered live, plus get prizes and promos), check out Code Red Ringside at www.coderedlifestyle.com/code-red-ringside.