Sometimes I talk to people who’ve lost weight on Code Red and start getting more attention.

Many are uncomfortable feeling seen when they’re used to feeling invisible.

Some also resent the people who basically ignored them when they were fat, but suddenly want to interact with them now that they’ve lost some weight.

If you can relate to feeling that way, maybe this post from one of my Code Red Mentors will help.

She writes:

“Once I reached my goal weight, I noticed more attention from members of the opposite sex. It was the kind of attention I wasn’t getting when I was heavier, and I didn’t exactly know how to handle it. 

“What got me thinking about all of this is when I went to a Gala for a charity event, and I had the pleasure of dressing up like a retro 50’s chic.

“That evening, I got a lot of positive attention. People stopped me frequently to admire my outfit and ask questions about it. I put a lot of effort into choosing the entire ensemble, so of course, I was flattered by the compliments.

“On the other hand, I also had some unwanted attention that left me feeling resentful. Let me give you some examples:

“The man who somehow showed up in my way and tried to start a conversation every time I moved around the room.

“The man who found out I have several semi-feral cats and offered to come to my house to help me with them.

“The owner of a marketing company suddenly wanted to help me with all my marketing needs for our rescue.

“The ex-boyfriend who wanted to get back together because it ‘just didn’t feel right without me.’

“I will let you in on a little secret. It made me angry! These people were the same people I already knew, yet they didn’t ‘notice me’ until I lost weight! It really bugged me! In my mind, I would think ‘I am the same person, why couldn’t they see how wonderful I already was before I lost weight?’

“Except I wasn’t.

“When I was heavier, I was NOT the same person. I was harsh, negative, and closed off. I didn’t realize how negative I was until after the weight came off. Not only did it come off my body, but it came off my mental state as well. What felt like overnight, I had become more positive, more encouraging, more loving, more fun, more joyful. Just MORE of all the GOOD stuff. People told me, ‘You are glowing’ and I was! I FELT great!

“The self-confidence I gained and the positivity I radiated became a shining light that people were simply attracted to. Not just men, but everyone! My presence made a difference, and it took me a long time to realize that!

“I really had to reflect on this because for a while, I was ruminating on the ‘creepiness’ of these said people. I realized they were not to blame. I was the one who had changed, and they were attracted to the light I brought.

“So, Rebels, whether you are at goal weight, or still losing, you may have already experienced this situation. I’m here to tell you that you are not alone! I had to shake off my feelings of resentfulness and look within. I encourage you to let go of any resentment you feel and just experience all the joy that comes along with a healthy body and free mind! If you are married or in a long-term relationship and your spouse or partner is now giving you more intimate attention, just keep in mind that you are exuding light and joy, and it is impossible not to be attracted to that! Life is too short to hold onto resentment, so free yourself from these kinds of worries and enjoy the ride!”

This phenomenon of getting more attention and not knowing what to do with it is super common but not usually talked about.

You won’t hear about it in the med-spas ignorantly prescribing GLP-1 to anyone who wants it or your MLM friends pushing another magic detox powder.

See, weight loss ain’t just about the weight loss.

There’s a whole other side to it that goes WAY beyond pounds on the scale…especially if you wanna KEEP the weight off.

I hope this Mentor sharing her experience helped you see that AND helped you realize it’s not just you who goes through stuff like this.

I also hope that when stuff like this comes up, you decide to stay connected and move forward, because the tendency is to withdraw, hide, and regain weight again. And I don’t want that for you!

Another thing you can do is shift your identity to equip you for life in maintenance.

To learn more about Identity Shifting, head to www.21dayshift.com.